A 22-year-old woman let her boyfriend cook soup in their shared kitchen while she was having a medical emergency. Her hijabi roommate called her an inconsiderate bitch over the boyfriend cooking drama.

The Backstory

The woman lives with a 23-year-old hijabi roommate. She always gives advance notice when her boyfriend visits. They stay in her room 99% of the time out of respect.

Her roommate wears a hijab and has a lot of hair. The woman understands that constantly putting the hijab back on gets annoying. She tries to minimize any inconvenience.

The woman had been dealing with an ovarian cyst. The cyst ruptured and her ovary twisted. She was in severe pain and couldn’t keep food down.

The Incident

The woman texted her roommate about the boyfriend cooking drama before it happened. She explained she was in too much pain to cook and her boyfriend would use the kitchen. He was making tomato soup from a can and a grilled cheese.

The boyfriend washed all his dishes while cooking. The roommate came out during this time. She grabbed some items and gave him a nasty look.

The woman’s condition got worse. They spent about ten minutes in the living room gathering things for the hospital. She was moving slowly and they kept reconsidering what to bring.

After surgery, the woman woke up to angry texts. The roommate said she shouldn’t have to put her hijab back on just to use her own kitchen. The woman apologized and explained what happened.

The roommate responded that it wasn’t hard and the boyfriend didn’t need to cook in their kitchen. She said they took too long to leave. The woman said she was tired and asked to be left alone. The roommate called her an inconsiderate bitch.

What Reddit Said

Most people said the woman was not the asshole. A Muslim hijabi commenter explained that ovarian cysts are extremely painful. She noted that helping sick people takes priority in Islam.

Many commenters told the woman to stop being a pushover. They pointed out this was a genuine medical emergency requiring surgery. People said the roommate should have shown basic human compassion.

Some suggested the roommate was being unreasonable about the boyfriend cooking drama. They noted the woman gave advance warning and the boyfriend cleaned up completely. The emergency nature of the situation made normal rules less important.

A few people acknowledged the roommate’s religious needs matter. However, they said medical emergencies create exceptions to normal courtesy rules. The roommate could have stayed in her room for thirty minutes.

The Verdict

Overall verdict: OP is NTA (Not the Asshole). This was a clear medical emergency that required immediate help. The roommate showed zero empathy for someone heading to surgery.

The boyfriend cooking drama reveals a deeper issue about reasonable accommodations. Respecting religious practices matters, but so does basic human decency during emergencies. Medical crises don’t wait for convenient timing.

This situation highlights the importance of communication and flexibility in shared living spaces. Check out more AITA stories about roommate conflicts and relationship drama involving living situations.

From r/AmItheAsshole (1,945 upvotes)