The Original Post
This may be more “blaming beggar” than choosing beggar because she wasn’t really picky in her first request. Woman asks for food in a local mutual aid group so she can throw her child a birthday party. Apparently only one of the people offering to help came through so she had to cancel. What got me was she then shames the group for not supplying food for her son’s party and allows us to make it up to her by supplying food for her family.
What Reddit Said
Redditors were absolutely stunned by the audacity on display. Most commenters focused on the backwards logic of planning a party you can’t afford to throw. The top comment perfectly captured the sentiment: don’t organize events if you need strangers to fund them.
However, many users were equally appalled by the manipulation tactics involved. The woman essentially tried to guilt-trip people into providing free food after her original request failed. Moreover, she framed her second demand as doing the group a “favor” by letting them make amends.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: this beggar shames group behavior crossed every line of decency. Reddit unanimously agreed this was peak entitlement wrapped in victim-blaming. This represents classic choosing beggar manipulation where failed charity becomes someone else’s fault requiring immediate compensation.
Original post from r/ChoosingBeggars (1,262 upvotes, 353 comments)