Boyfriend Always Late Says “That Doesn’t Bother Me” When …
The Original Post
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Since a couple months we started getting into fights more often since we have had a whole different upbringing and therefore also different views on certain things that we will need to be facing rather sooner than later (about marriage, children, etc).
A bad habit of him is that he is always late. He is never on time and I feel he has taken over this habit from his parents. Even with more important appointments they tend to be late. I have talked about him being late a dozen of times already and whenever we make plans I have to tell him continously he needs to be ready at said specific time.
Yesterday he planned on visiting me (I live on my own, he lives with his parents). We agreed that he would be at my place at 7PM, and that we would eat together.
I had a busy day at work and had to clean the house a little bit and prepare a couple of things already for dinner. I was quite in a hurry to be on time. He, on the contrary, had a day off but still managed to not be on time. Time passed, I didn’t hear from him until 7.45PM, when he called me. Said that he fell asleep and that he would take a shower and then come over. Eventually he arrived at 8.30PM.
I confronted him with being so terribly late, and his reaction was ‘that doesn’t bother me’. I immediately felt that he doesn’t care too much about me or my feelings since he made me wait so long. The feeling of me being inferior to him and his feelings has been around for some time, how do I make it clear to him that he cannot treat me like this?
What Reddit Said
Reddit users were unanimous in their outrage over the boyfriend’s dismissive response. The top comment bluntly stated he doesn’t care or respect her, noting that he walks all over her because he knows she won’t leave. Moreover, commenters were shocked by his blatant insensitivity.
Many Redditors pointed out that chronic lateness is actually a form of disrespect. However, his response of “that doesn’t bother me” took the disrespect to an entirely new level. In fact, users interpreted this as him literally saying he doesn’t care about her feelings.
The Verdict
The consensus was crystal clear: this boyfriend always late doesn’t care about his girlfriend’s time or emotions. Reddit advised OP to seriously reconsider the relationship, as his behavior demonstrates fundamental disrespect. This represents classic relationship red flags that typically don’t improve without major changes in attitude.
Original post from r/relationship_advice (2,016 upvotes, 463 comments)