Boyfriend Gets Angry Over Yeast Infection, Threatens Breakup

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year.

About a week ago, I went to the doctor because I was having chest problems. I was diagnosed with an upper respiratory infection and bronchitis. Because it was an infection, I was prescribed antibiotics. I am allergic to penicillin, so I was given a different medication.

Ever since I was young, taking antibiotics has almost always caused me to develop either a yeast infection or BV. I do not know why, but it has been a consistent issue for me.

Yesterday, I woke up feeling much better from the bronchitis, but I noticed that something felt wrong down there. I was experiencing itching, burning, and an unusual bloody smell even though I am not on my period and should not be for another ten days (sorry for the details). Based on the symptoms and the consistency of my discharge, I believe I have a yeast infection caused by the antibiotics.

That evening, my boyfriend and I were relaxing at home. He asked if I wanted to have sex, and I said no. I explained that I was uncomfortable and did not want to make the infection worse. I also told him that I felt embarrassed about the symptoms.

I showed him the cream I am using to treat the infection. He offered to help apply it, and I agreed. However, during this, he began touching me in a sexual way, which caused pain and burning. I asked him to stop and told him clearly that I did not want to engage in any sexual activity. I then applied the medication myself in the bathroom.

When I came back, he told me that our sex life is a mess. This confused me because we usually have sex two to three times a week, and I believed our sex life was healthy. He said that I am not on the same level as him and that I ruined what could have been a nice evening.

I tried to explain again that this situation has nothing to do with attraction or compatibility and everything to do with my health. He then asked if I had an STD, which made me realize that he does not understand what a yeast infection or BV is.

I explained that it is not an STD and that it is a common side effect of antibiotics. He responded by saying that I was making excuses to avoid sleeping with him. He said that sex is his love language and that if I cannot give that to him, he would have to leave.

I ended up crying and questioning myself, but after reflecting on it, I know there is nothing wrong with me. I was sick, took prescribed medication, and now my body is dealing with the consequences.

I love my boyfriend and I love our sex life. I never believed there was a problem before this. Now, I feel pressured to engage in sex while I am physically uncomfortable and in pain. I want to explain this to him without it turning into a fight or being dismissed as an excuse.