On today’s episode of people who should know better, a 39-year-old woman’s boyfriend becomes increasingly self centered after five years together. However, this story has a plot twist that’ll restore your faith in personal growth.

When Your Boyfriend Becomes Increasingly Self Centered: The Backstory

Meet our protagonist, a 39-year-old woman who spent five years watching her same-aged boyfriend transform into the human equivalent of a black hole. Initially, she tried the classic relationship advice approach of demanding more support and accountability.

Unfortunately, her efforts backfired spectacularly. Moreover, he responded to her reasonable requests by becoming mean, disrespectful, and prioritizing his female friends over her at every turn.

Meanwhile, he perfected the art of gaslighting by telling her she was “too hard on him” because he “just forgets.” As a result, their relationship became a masterclass in how not to treat your partner.

The Self Centered Boyfriend Incident

The breaking point arrived when she left for an intense business trip. Before her departure, he made sure they couldn’t spend quality time together because he was conveniently “too busy.”

However, the moment she left town, he suddenly had all the time in the world for his friends. In fact, he took a weekend trip with his female friend just days before his biggest work deadline.

When she confronted him about this blatant disrespect, he broke up with her over the phone. Furthermore, he had the audacity to say he was “bored” with her and that her drama-free personality made him “profoundly miserable.”

Nevertheless, karma worked quickly. His rebound relationship with one of those female friends crashed and burned exactly as she predicted.

Subsequently, he came crawling back claiming they just had “communication issues” and begging for a do-over. Fortunately, she’d spent months working on herself while he was chasing his next conquest.

What Reddit Said

Most people celebrated her growth and urged her to block him completely. However, some pointed out that her post history showed years of dealing with this “lying, cheating, self-centered alcoholic.”

In addition, commenters questioned why she was still in contact with him at all. A few suggested that continuing communication was preventing her from fully moving on.

Moreover, many users praised her friends for secretly toasting the breakup with champagne. Finally, Reddit overwhelmingly agreed that she deserved better treatment.

The Verdict

Overall verdict: This woman is absolutely right to refuse the do-over. Therefore, the real victory here isn’t just escaping a boyfriend who becomes increasingly self centered, but discovering that life is calmer without toxic people in it.

For more stories about relationship drama and revenge stories, check out our other posts about people who finally chose themselves.

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