Boyfriend Changed After Becoming Breadwinner – Reddit Drama

My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I moved in together in July because he was starting a new job in a new city. I had left my old job and had another lined up. Unfortunately, I unexpectedly got “laid off” before I could even start the new job due to their budget issues. I have been unemployed since August, and my mental health has taken a huge hit. I have been trying every job board and connection I can think of, but nowhere in my field seems to be hiring right now. My boyfriend luckily has a good job and has been able to provide for us, with me covering some bills with my savings.

The issue is that this past Saturday night he got really drunk at a Christmas party and started screaming to me in public that he no longer has compassion for me because he thinks I do nothing and want to do nothing for the rest of my life. He thinks he’s better than me now because he has a good job and better degree than me, that maybe my potential job just didn’t want me instead of it being a budget issue, and that apparently my family all can’t stand me either.

I am so hurt because he insulted me, made up lies to hurt me, and I think he’s letting being the provider get to his head. Prior to his job, I was the “breadwinner” and was the one who kept him from dropping out of school and encouraged him to pursue the good job he has now. I have been supporting him through his depression for our entire relationship, and the one time I need his support he can’t even handle it for five months. I don’t know how I can trust him going forward when he turns on me at my most vulnerable moment.

I admit I’ve had a short temper and have been overall extra emotional because of the rejection and uncertainty about my career, but I have also been trying my hardest to find a job and take care of our new home together. I pretty much saved him from giving up on everything, but now that he’s successful he looks down on me during one of my hardest times. And of course he had to do it days before Christmas and by making a scene in public. So is this worth leaving him over?

TLDR

Lost my job at the same time my boyfriend got a new job. Despite trying to find a new job and desperately wanting to work again, boyfriend thinks I’m content with “not doing better” and resents me for it. Decided to tell me all this in the middle of a holiday party.

EDIT

For everyone focused on the money, he has no issue paying the rent. He and his parents paid his bills prior to moving in together, and I paid my own bills. We agreed on 50/50 when we moved in together and both thought we had jobs. When I lost my job, he agreed to cover full rent until I am working full time again without expecting repayment. I am still covering our other bills with my savings and plan to contribute as originally planned when I’m working. The issue is he is not giving me the same grace and compassion during my depression and job struggles that I gave to him in the past.