Hi everyone, I just wanted to leave a little update for this post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/ouyJcX4bFY

Thanks for the replies, I read every single one and the general consensus is that I should not give up my goal of being a vet. A part of me knows that but I just was second guessing if I was making the right decision. I really love him and have been with him since I was a teenager. If I’m being honest, I left out some information in order to try to keep the responses as non biased as possible. I’ll now be referring to boyfriend as my EX.

Okay so some important info/answers to some comments that I saw:

My ex has known for years about my dreams to become a vet and has only just recently sprang this on me that he doesn’t want to be with me if I go through with it. It started with me talking about the cost of vet school. He then gave me an ultimatum that if I go to vet school, then he’s going to break up with me. When I told him that I’m not giving up on that goal, he kind of went back on his ultimatum? But then a week later is when he brought it up again, hence my post. So yes, he did ask me to give up being a vet. He told me that I wasn’t acting like a lady, that as a woman my purpose is to be a mom and a wife, and that I have no idea how the world works.

Another comment asked why I would have to move back to my hometown. I moved out of my hometown and have been in a long distance relationship ever since. My ex used to tell me that his plan was to move to the new city I live in now, but he randomly decided against that. He was not willing to budge, and told me many times that I would have to move back in order for us to be together. This was another point of contention for us.

Many people were wondering if he had the resources to take care of a SAHM and big family. Short answer: maybe for a while? He hasn’t had a stable job for months, but he has a good amount of money in assets. It would be okay for the short term, but definitely would not provide the life that he or I have expressed that we would want.

I left all of this information out because I wanted to hear people’s advice at face value, but I recognize that all of this is pretty important information. I’m not sure if I’m missing any other important questions so I’m open to answering more if needed, but I think at this point the case is pretty cut and dry. He and I are broken up. I’ve come to the conclusion that even if I did everything he wanted me to, he would still find something to put me down for and end up leaving me anyways. Sucks but I guess I’ll just focus on becoming a vet and the whole family thing will hopefully come when it’s meant to. Thank you guys again for your comments! I received such great advice, and I appreciate what everyone said so much.