Boyfriend Forces Her to Eat $200 Worth of Food She Hates

A woman’s boyfriend took her to an expensive all-you-can-eat restaurant and ordered tons of pork and beef despite knowing her food preferences. When she didn’t eat the meat he ordered, he blamed her for “wasting” $200 and called her ungrateful.

The Original Post

I (23f) was visiting my boyfriend (23m) and his family in their state. On my last day there my boyfriend said he wanted to take his family and I out to dinner. He chose the restaurant which is a place he loves and invited 5 of his family members. We went to a restaurant where you pay for all you can eat bbq and sushi. I am not a big fan of red meats but I will eat them occasionally. I tend to stick to chicken and seafood and do not eat pork. You cook the meats there yourself and my bf ordered alot of pork and beef for us. I ordered myself chicken, shrimp, rice and veggies. I ate all of my food and made sure not to bite off more than I could chew. They charge you extra for whatever you don’t eat. My bf offered me beef and I had some of that but when he offered me pork I hesitated but he gave me a stern look and I felt forced to eat a small slice. He even tried to give me more pork and trick me into thinking it was chicken thigh but I said no, I’m full. Well after that my bf’s mood shifted towards me and I could tell he was angry. After the dinner, in the car he said he was upset he spent $200 on food and all I ate was β€œ3 pieces of chicken” and barely touched the beef/pork. He said I was being ungrateful but I think not. HE chose the place, HE invited 6 people total not including himself so obviously the bill will be high, and HE ordered all the pork and beef. I ate ALL of my food. So AITA?

What Reddit Said

Redditors immediately zeroed in on the controlling behavior. The “stern look” that forced her to eat food she didn’t want sent up major red flags. Moreover, commenters were appalled that he tried to trick her into eating pork by claiming it was chicken.

Most users pointed out the obvious logic gap in his argument. He chose the restaurant, invited six people, and ordered the food she didn’t eat. Therefore, blaming her for the bill made absolutely no sense. In fact, many suspected this was part of a pattern of manipulation.

The Verdict

The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This boyfriend forced eating expensive food scenario reveals serious control issues. Reddit saw this as a classic case of relationship red flags wrapped up in family drama. The real issue isn’t the moneyβ€”it’s the manipulation.


Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (5,684 upvotes, 565 comments)

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