The Original Post
I (23f) was visiting my boyfriend (23m) and his family in their state. On my last day there my boyfriend said he wanted to take his family and I out to dinner. He chose the restaurant which is a place he loves and invited 5 of his family members. We went to a restaurant where you pay for all you can eat bbq and sushi. I am not a big fan of red meats but I will eat them occasionally. I tend to stick to chicken and seafood and do not eat pork. You cook the meats there yourself and my bf ordered alot of pork and beef for us. I ordered myself chicken, shrimp, rice and veggies. I ate all of my food and made sure not to bite off more than I could chew. They charge you extra for whatever you donβt eat. My bf offered me beef and I had some of that but when he offered me pork I hesitated but he gave me a stern look and I felt forced to eat a small slice. He even tried to give me more pork and trick me into thinking it was chicken thigh but I said no, Iβm full. Well after that my bfβs mood shifted towards me and I could tell he was angry. After the dinner, in the car he said he was upset he spent $200 on food and all I ate was β3 pieces of chickenβ and barely touched the beef/pork. He said I was being ungrateful but I think not. HE chose the place, HE invited 6 people total not including himself so obviously the bill will be high, and HE ordered all the pork and beef. I ate ALL of my food. So AITA?
What Reddit Said
Redditors immediately zeroed in on the controlling behavior. The “stern look” that forced her to eat food she didn’t want sent up major red flags. Moreover, commenters were appalled that he tried to trick her into eating pork by claiming it was chicken.
Most users pointed out the obvious logic gap in his argument. He chose the restaurant, invited six people, and ordered the food she didn’t eat. Therefore, blaming her for the bill made absolutely no sense. In fact, many suspected this was part of a pattern of manipulation.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This boyfriend forced eating expensive food scenario reveals serious control issues. Reddit saw this as a classic case of relationship red flags wrapped up in family drama. The real issue isn’t the moneyβit’s the manipulation.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (5,684 upvotes, 565 comments)