Today is our two year anniversary and it was a very special milestone to me as he is my first boyfriend. With Christmas just gone I was really struggling on what to get him. I tried asking him multiple times and he kept telling me “oh I don’t care” and then I told him no please just tell me something to get you because I don’t want you to hate it.

In the past I have bought him an Apple Watch that he ended up not liking which I had to use as my own watch instead as I wasn’t able to get my money back for it. I have tried to be more cautious about making the same mistake. But today I completely failed again.

I have been working a lot lately and only had one day off last week. I had asked him multiple times leading into my day off that can he please tell me what he wants as a gift. He kept telling me he’d get back to me but he never did. On my day off I was frustrated and annoyed. I was with my friend and spent about 4 hours going through every store at the shopping centre hoping to find at least one thing to get him.

I went into a store that was selling the ninja swirl by creami that was on special. This really seemed to me something my boyfriend might like as he loved ice cream and sorbet. I thought it would be cool as he could experiment and make different flavours that you can’t get at the store. There was also like a bunch of protein options and dairy free that I thought he could find interesting as he expressed intention to eat healthier but still enjoy sweets.

I also was thinking about how it’s a good gift that he could share with his family and with the soft serve feature I thought it would be fun to use. Granted it was an expensive machine for $477 AUD but I thought two years anniversary was something worth celebrating. Plus I had a $300 gift card that was literally collecting dust that I hadn’t used that I wanted to just get rid of. So really only $177 of my own money.

I talked it through with my friend and decided to get it as it was literally 30 minutes until closing time and I had tried every other option. I felt confident in my decision.

Later that night before I was going to sleep my boyfriend sent me a message saying “oh here’s a shirt you could get me for our anniversary.”. This really annoyed me as he knew that I didn’t have another day off before our anniversary and that I wouldn’t be able to leave my job to get anything or get it after work as the store was far away from my house and workplace.

I told him I had already gotten him a gift and that he should have sent it earlier. Regardless I was still confident in my decision.

Fast forward to today I had wrapped it up and given it to him. At first he acted really excited and interested. He did ask me how much it was and I had told him not to worry about the cost. But he pressed me so I had told him exactly how much it was but that I had brought it with gift cards. He still

Smiled and said he liked it. It wasn’t until later in the day when he was going home that I started to get the impression he didn’t like it. He said that he was going to leave it at my house and I said no it’s your gift take it home. Then he said oh no I want to make it with you the first time we can do it later. And I said well no take it home we can make it at your house. Then he said no he wants to leave it here. I said to him oh well can you just let my mum know why it’s here then because she made it clear to me that she didn’t want it to live here.

Then he just completely blew up at me and asked me why on earth would I buy this thing and that it was too much money. That he was never going to use it and that I should never of bought it. I started to cry as I was shocked from the sudden switch up and then he started to taunt me almost by saying oh now I’m the bad guy for telling the truth. “This is exactly like that stupid Apple Watch” and then he reminded me that he asked me to buy him a shirt not an ice cream maker. Then he told me I never listen to him and that I am bad with money and make impulsive decisions.

I wanted to argue back and stand up for myself but I knew it would just escalate things further and I was devastated as it’s literally our anniversary and he’s blowing up at me for buying him this gift I generally thought he’d like. I also didn’t really know how to respond. I mean I feel like a complete failure. A bad girlfriend. Clearly I don’t know him at all as I thought he would love this gift.

All I said to him was that I could return it and get store credit. And that I was sorry. But this only made him mad saying I was trying to make him look bad. He then told me that he was doing me a favour by telling me now he hates it and that I couldn’t get mad at him in a months time for never using it

Whilst he was going off at me my mum was in the other room. I knew she could hear us so i asked him to lower his voice down. He then got frustrated and said he had to go and I just said ok no worries. I couldn’t bring myself to say anything. After he left my mum came and checked on me if I was ok. I just cried to her and she acknowledged she had heard what he had said and noted he was acting like a prick. She told me you don’t do that to someone if you don’t like a gift. You don’t say it to them on the day like that. Now our anniversary is ruined.

I even told my coworkers about this gift I was planning to get my boyfriend and they all hyped me up. Now when I go back to work I have to embarrassingly explain to them how it went horrible it went as I know they will ask.

So what do I even do now? I don’t know how to move forward from this or where to start? Do I apologise to him? Do I return this gift and get him a different one or nothing at all?

I feel pretty shitty right now and I want to know if there’s anything I could have done differently?

Thank you for reading and I’d appreciate any advice anyone may have 🙂