Boyfriend Kicked Me Out of Shower to Poop – Reddit Drama
The Original Post
Got home from work today and told my bf I was gonna take a quick shower. As soon as I put shampoo in my hair he comes in and is like “I’m so sorry but you have to leave right now, I gotta GO”
I respond “Dude, no. I’ll just close the shower curtain and you can go”
To which he responds “Are you serious?!? You gotta get out!”
To which I’m like “dude are YOU seriously asking me to get out of the shower right now?”
Background: we’ve lived together for 2+ years, are pretty comf with each other but definitely not to the point of pooping in front of each other. He has IBS so when he’s gotta go he’s gotta go. We also live in a cold ass place that is heated with a wood stove and I hadn’t gotten the fire going yet so was just standing freezing and dripping and shampoo haired outside the bathroom waiting for him to shit. This is obviously not THAT big of a deal but like….am I crazy thinking that it’s a wild ask to make ur partner leave mid shower so you can take a dump?
What Reddit Said
Reddit was surprisingly divided on this bathroom boundary dispute. Many users admitted they wouldn’t want to shower while someone was actively using the toilet in the same room. However, others felt the boyfriend’s IBS condition created a genuine emergency situation.
The top comment received over 16,000 upvotes supporting the boyfriend’s position. Meanwhile, several users shared their own long-term relationship experiences. Most couples maintained privacy around bathroom habits even after decades together.
The discussion revealed that IBS adds serious complexity to the situation. In fact, many Redditors emphasized that IBS emergencies are exactly that – true emergencies. Therefore, most agreed this was simply unfortunate timing rather than anyone being deliberately inconsiderate.
The Verdict
The consensus leaned toward NAH (No Assholes Here) with understanding for both sides. While being kicked out of the shower mid-wash is incredibly inconvenient, IBS emergencies can’t wait. This represents a classic case of relationship boundaries meeting medical necessity, where compromise and understanding matter most in cohabitation conflicts.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (5,737 upvotes, 2,473 comments)