Boyfriend Furious After Cousin Touched Her Old Implants

My cousin was over at my house. My first cousin, the closest I had to a brother growing up. He was sitting down and he looked across my living room and said “is that an implant?” I said “yes” and let him see it. He was like “woah that’s crazy,” and then I said “want to see what the inside of one looks like?” Because one was ruptured and the texture is super weird. He said “that’s sticky like a glue trap,” that was the interact. My bf was watching the security cameras in the living room and he got pissed. He said that was inappropriate and sexual and “white people f their cousins,” seriously wtf?? He’s said “You should have known that was disgusting letting your cousin touch your t!ts!” and he said I am “disrespecting him by doing something sexual.”

I never would have equated touching an implant outside my body, especially a ruptured one, was the same as touching my boob. I said o understand how that may have upset you and I can respect you opinion and I’m sorry it hurt you. It won’t happen again. But he is still claiming I should have known better. This is something that I don’t feel like anyone would have expected or automatically known.

I guess I just don’t know what do anymore. I know this isn’t healthy, I just am shocked he reacted this way and this badly. We’ve never been perfect but this is a completely different level of anger. He’s been an amazing man in the past. He’s been super tense lately. And he’s never gotten mad at something like this before.

Pertinent info. We’ve been together almost 4 years. We have had fights in the past but all couples do. He’s Arabic, I’m white. We have security cameras because there have been several break ins and the police said until we get the guy on camera they won’t do anything even though we have seen him on our property multiple times and running from the house after we caught him.

Editing to add we are done. I’m just in shock at this point. I don’t even know how we got to this point and honestly I’m really hurt that he just flipped into a completely different person.