Boyfriend Pressures GF for Kids, Says He Doesn’t Respect Her

Last night my partner and I were out to dinner. We haven’t been able to see each other much recently due to me being in school with finals week approaching. We were in a discussion about misogyny and sexism after I brought up a story about my dad accidentally calling a female pilot a flight attendant, and I explained how I thought that was sexist.

He proceeded to say that women can be “sensitive” and it’s not that big of a deal. To this I responded I’ve seen it happen with women doctors being called nurses and so on, and that he wouldn’t understand because he’s not a women. He kept saying it was a matter of being sensitive than being misogynist.

Now, my boyfriend have been arguing about children recently. I still have over a year left of school, but he has been pressuring me about having kids now saying “people have done it during school its not hard”. I have even stated being married before yet he continues to push. So to drive my point home further, I mentioned that him pressuring me to have kids right now could be considered sexist and misogynistic, and he completely lost it on me.

While at dinner he started getting more angry and using curse words, so I said we could continue this conversation when he wasn’t cussing, to which he proceeded to say “I don’t cuss at people I respect like my mom and my grandma”. So I got up and walked out of the restaurant.

I was felt disrespected for him cursing at me and then basically saying he doesn’t respect me, and I knew if I would have continued sitting there I would have caused a scene. He texted me telling me to find my own ride home, and that he couldn’t believe I embarrassed him like that. He continued to say “I regret falling in love with you” “fucking you was my biggest mistake”. I ended up getting a ride home from my mom.

Maybe I shouldn’t have walked out of the restaurant like I did, but in that moment I felt so disrespected and unheard. At this point it also seems like he is more mad I “embarrassed him” than him disrespecting me. I don’t know what to do, or if my actions are justified.

UPDATE:

Wow. I was not expecting this response. I appreciate all the positive comments and support, it feels good to see so many supporting my decision. I have texted him and said that because he feels too comfortable disrespecting me that it’s not going to work out anymore. I plan to drop off his stuff this weekend/next week, and have already unfollowed/removed him on instagram. Thank you all for the kind words