Boyfriend Refuses Condom, Threatens Breakup Over Birth Co…

Hi so here’s my original post

[ https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/s/T5GQC8h1v9 ](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/T5GQC8h1v9)

But to sum it up my BF mentioned during valentines dinner that he didn’t wanna wear condoms anymore and threatened our relationship over it. He said that we should use the pullout method because him and his exes did it and they never got pregnant. But I really encourage you read the first post for more details.

I talked to him tonight about it and proposed a compromise that he gives me 6 months and we check in again to be in the relationship a bit longer before I go on birth control so I can do research and be ready and make sure I’m doing it for myself and not just for him and his pleasure. I also told him he’s only made me come once during our 9 month relationship and that maybe we could work on finding other pleasure in the bedroom because he would just rush to the finish line of him coming as quick as possible and would never do enough foreplay to make me wet so he’s just toss lube at me.

He told me 6 months is too long that he’s already gave in for 9 months by wearing them and that condoms ruin any other fun in the bedroom. He also spent a good 20 minutes trying to persuade me to give in and invalidated how I felt about the pull out method because his ex with anxiety didn’t have a problem with it. Also he told me that having sex with condoms isn’t actually sex and it ruins the intimacy of it all. Lastly, he told me I was being stubborn and if he were me he’d give in. Why didn’t a break it off quicker?!

We broke up.