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Woman Escapes Abusive Boyfriend Who Threatened Her During…

šŸ“… December 28, 2025 šŸ‘ļø 33 views ā±ļø 4 min read
A 22-year-old woman’s plan to quietly move out turned into a nightmare when her 32-year-old boyfriend came home early and cycled between crying, threatening to throw her belongings outside, and charging at her aggressively. She had to hit emergency SOS and call her parents for help, but she and her dog finally escaped safely.

The Original Post

Here is an update from my last post. ā€œ planning to Irish goodbye my boyfriendā€

On Dec 23 I moved out of my boyfriend’s house. I originally planned to leave without telling him, but he came home on his lunch break, visibly anxious and said I could leave if I wanted to. After a heated discussion, I told him I was done and moving back to my parents. My family was coming that day.

At first he cried, said goodbye to my dog, gave me all the dog supplies, and asked for ā€œanother chance,ā€ saying he’d booked therapy for his anger. I agreed only to keep things calm so I could leave safely. He went back to work.

He then came back angry, told me to get out immediately, said it was his house, and threatened to throw all my stuff outside. When I cried and explained this behavior was exactly why I was leaving, he insulted me (ā€œthis is what I get for dating a 20-year-oldā€) and left again.

He returned once more, screaming and walking aggressively toward me. I ran to my office and hit the emergency SOS on my phone (not sure if it connected). After he left, I called my dad and told him I needed to move out immediately.

While I was packing, my boyfriend sent a friend over ā€œto make sure nothing was broken.ā€ I told him I was just taking my things. Later, my boyfriend came back just before my dad arrived. When my dad was loading the car, my boyfriend tried to keep my dog. I took the dog to my car, my dad stepped in, and things de-escalated.

After repeatedly asking him to leave, he finally did, after my dad asked him too,My mom arrived shortly after, and with both my parents’ help, I got all my belongings and my dog out safely.

Me and my dog are both safe, staying at my parents.

I AM FREE!

I going to move into my new place first week of January.

Boyfriend has set up a ā€œcouples counsellingā€ appointment with our mutual therapist. Boyfriend wants it to repair our relationship, I’m going for closure. Boyfriend knows I am going to live into a new place.

I know I shouldn’t see him, but I want to stall him from going to court over the dog.

I am not getting back with him, I want closure and him to be calm… at lest until I get my dog microchipped , and have a visit with the new vet-scheduled for next week.

I feel so free and calm!

He can’t hurt me anymore!

UPDATE:
I have emailed the therapist letting him know I’ve moved out and to cancel the appointment.
You are all right.
I do not need to see him to get ā€œcloserā€.
I do not want to put myself in a position where I feel unsafe again.
I have removed him from all my socials.
Just hoping he doesn’t come to my family’s home.. they are all on vacation, so I’m here alone. I’ve locked all the doors.

What Reddit Said

Reddit immediately recognized the dangerous escalation in OP’s situation. Users were alarmed by the boyfriend’s erratic behavior – switching from tears to threats to physical aggression. Most commenters praised her for getting out safely with her dog.

However, Redditors were deeply concerned about her plan to attend couples therapy. They strongly urged her to cancel the appointment and avoid any further contact. The consensus was clear: this wasn’t about closure, it was about safety.

The Verdict

The overwhelming response: OP made the right choice escaping when her boyfriend threatened during breakup. This is a textbook case of abusive relationship patterns escalating during separation. Reddit celebrated when she updated that she cancelled therapy and went no-contact. Her safety matters more than any perceived need for closure in toxic relationships.


Original post from r/relationship_advice (1,084 upvotes, 127 comments)