Boyfriend Tricked Girlfriend Into Getting Medical Shot – …
The Original Post
My girlfriend tripped on her terrace the other night and fell onto a very dirty rusty iron rebar rod (the kind used in concrete pillars). It punctured her palm about 0.25 inches deep. When I asked if she’d ever had a tetanus shot, she said never.
She didn’t tell her parents and just did some basic first aid which was at her hostel. The next day, she told me she was feeling feverish.
Because a rusty puncture wound + no vaccine + fever is a major red flag for tetanus so I decided to take her to a clinic.
I knew she wouldn’t go to the doctor willingly, so I took her. I told her we were going out to get some general fever medicine and get her wound checked properly, and after that we will have some food.
I drove her straight to the clinic. The doctor confirmed she needed the vaccine. She was furious, she said no to that, but eventually got the shot when the doctor told her the consequences, she cried like a baby when the needle got inserted, and was visibly shaking. The procedure was less than 4 to 5 seconds. I paid the bill and when i tried to hold her hand to take her to the car she walked by herself, she didn’t reply to any of my questions.
When I asked where she wanted to eat, she just told me to drop her at her PG. She didn’t say bye, and once I got home, I realized she had blocked me everywhere.
I didn’t diagnose her, the doctor did, the doctor recommended the injection and medicines, I didn’t, I already told her we are going for a checkup. What is the point of getting upset after that? I think she is mad because she didn’t expect an injection.
It’s been 24 hours. I want to apologize, but I can’t reach her. I can’t show up at her hostel because the Hostel Dean might call her parents, which she’s trying to avoid.
How do I convince her?
Should I call her on her friend’s phone? Please chat, tell me what I should say to make up for it. Should i send her a gift with an apology letter?
What Reddit Said
Most Redditors firmly defended the boyfriend’s actions. They argued he potentially saved her life by getting her necessary medical treatment. However, many also acknowledged his girlfriend’s right to feel deceived about the clinic visit.
The top comments focused on the medical emergency aspect. Users pointed out that tetanus from rusty wounds can be fatal. Moreover, several Redditors questioned whether this girlfriend would be a suitable long-term partner if she refuses basic medical care.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: the boyfriend did the right thing, even if his methods were questionable. This boyfriend tricked girlfriend medical shot situation reveals deeper compatibility issues about healthcare decisions. Reddit viewed this as a relationship advice case where medical necessity trumped deception concerns. Most users suggested he deserves better than someone who blocks him for potentially saving her life.
Original post from r/relationship_advice (1,671 upvotes, 810 comments)