My boyfriend of two years has asked me to sign a nondisclosure agreement.

The agreement would prohibit me from disclosing to any third party (including friends, coworkers, etc.) any private communications, photographs, relationship details, disagreements, allegations, rumors, or commentary about him or our relationship, both online and offline.

It also restricts indirect or vague social media posts, reposts, likes, shares, or any content that could be viewed as disparaging.

The agreement includes injunctive relief provisions allowing him to seek court orders to stop disclosures, without posting a bond.

It imposes liquidated damages of $1,000,000 per breach, with each individual post, message, disclosure, or communication treated as a separate breach. It also makes the breaching party responsible for all attorney’s fees and costs.

It prohibits disclosure of the existence or terms of the agreement itself.

The confidentiality obligations last up to ten years, with some provisions applying indefinitely, like the recordings/photographs.

The agreement primarily protects him and does not contain meaningful exceptions for seeking advice, emotional support, or safety-related disclosures (except in later proposed amendments).

He is now proposing amendments to allow disclosures only to family and a therapist and to reduce the penalty.

I haven’t signed anything. I declined and he wants to discuss amending it.

**EDIT:** Thank you all for the feedback and perspectives. I appreciate it. Just to clarify a few things and give an honest update:

This situation is *not* fake or exaggerated. I actually received an NDA from my ex that included a 30-year term and penalties. I shared it because I needed honest feedback on how unusual and lopsided it seemed.

I also want to be honest about why I even questioned myself in the first place. I’ve been in a toxic relationship for a long time, and over time I started doubting my own judgment. He regularly made me feel “crazy” or unreasonable for having concerns, so when this came up, part of me wondered if I was overreacting even though deep down I knew it wasn’t normal.

I also don’t have much relationship experience outside of him, which made it harder for me to recognize how unhealthy things had become.

Since then I have:

* Made it clear I wasn’t comfortable signing the original terms,
* Decided to end the relationship,
* And blocked him on all platforms.

Thanks again for the input. I’m now going to work on moving forward and focusing on my studies and pursuing my career.