Boyfriend’s “Work Wife” Crosses Every Line – Reddit Reacts

So, throw away account because this is pretty personal drama and I don’t want all my friends knowing about this just yet… I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, and he’s been at his current job for a few years. We will call him Jake. I’ve never met any of his coworkers until last night, but there’s one in particular who we will call Amy.

He sometimes does favors for her, fixing her car, going to her house to fix stuff around her house, etc. and I was never really concerned because he told me all his coworkers are a lot older than him. However, one night while he was asleep his guy friend kept blowing up his phone, so I answered to let him know Jake was sleeping and so was I, so please stop calling. Anyways, before I put the phone down I noticed 5 unread text notifications from Amy. I guess some of the spam notifications were from her. One of them said “Great Jake, now everyone thinks we are fucking!😂”

This really concerned me. So, the next day after Jake got home from work I asked about it. He said that both him and Amy were late for work that morning, so everyone probably assumed that, and it was just a joke. I thought it was a weirdly unprofessional joke and expressed my discomfort. He invited me to the bar with him and his coworkers that night so I could meet her and see it was nothing to worry about.

It did not soothe my nerves, at all. Turns out Amy is NOT a lot older than him, she’s only 3 years older, and super pretty. The entire night she was all over him. Touching him, leaning on him, putting his arms around him, and even kissed him on the cheek and he acted like it was normal. They were constantly teasing each other, in that “middle schooler who doesn’t know how to properly flirt yet” kind of way. She told me all about how she “loves him like a brother”, and also told me she’s had sex with half of their other coworkers, and that she got the next morning off work because she sent a coworker nudes to get him to cover for her…

Later on she started crying and sobbing at the bar (actual tears) because she’s “so lonely and wants someone to love her” and my boyfriend ended up having to comfort her. I am just unsure what to do or say. My boyfriend kept acting like this was normal, that he wasn’t doing anything wrong by entertaining this behavior. I can’t ask him to cut her off, they’re on the same unit and they have to work together. I literally do not know what to do about this but I’m just disgusted knowing this has been going on these years that he’s worked with her. How can I set boundaries when they’re forced to be around each other all the time at work?