Brother Wants to Bring Cam Girl as Wedding Plus-One | Reddit
The Original Post
I (F29) am getting married in April. The wedding is a bit short notice as my fiancé only proposed in December, but we chose April as we got a really good price for our dream wedding venue. We are offering plus-ones for our single guests.
My brother Fran (M27) is single and took us up on the plus-one offer. He wants to bring a girl, Dani (F26). Dani is a cam girl and Fran is a client of hers. Fran sometimes pays her to meet up in person and go on dates, and my wedding would be one of those times. I only know about the nature of their relationship because Fran started this while living with our parents and they eventually found out.
I’ve only met Dani a few times, once when Fran brought her to our aunt’s potluck baby shower. I feel like Dani’s behavior during this event was really inappropriate. They turned up 2 hours late (by then, most of the food was gone) with no dish and Dani kept loudly complaining she was hungry the whole event. She took a load of the unused paper plates and straws and stuffed them into her purse without asking if she could take them. She also made really rude comments towards my aunt about her pregnant belly and how “big” she is and how she should get liposuction after the baby. She managed to constantly make herself the center of attention by just generally being loud and unpleasant. This really upset our aunt. She vented to my mom (who wasn’t at the baby shower because she was sick) about it and when my mom confronted Fran, he had a meltdown and it was never brought up again.
I just find everything about her behavior really tacky, this plus the fact she’s not even Fran’s girlfriend or friend but his sex worker makes me really not want her at the wedding. At first I phrased it in a non-confrontational way and asked if there’s anyone else he’d like to bring, like one of his friends. Fran said no and got really defensive, and asked me why I’d ask him that. He then accused me of hating Dani for no reason.
I told him he’s welcome to bring someone else as his plus-one but he is not to bring Dani to the wedding because I’ve just not liked what I’ve seen with her behavior at the last family event she was at. He said I’m being judgemental and that Dani is a nice person. I asked Fran to please not make this a big deal and just bring one of his friends and have a nice time with the family. Fran started yelling at me, he called me a stupid bitch and said I’ve already offered him a plus-one so he’s bringing Dani and I can’t stop him, and that I’m being a terrible sister.
I feel like I’m going crazy because I don’t think I’m being massively unreasonable but this is the biggest fight I’ve ever had with Fran. Am I the asshole?
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly supported the bride’s decision. Most users emphasized that the issue wasn’t Dani’s profession as a sex worker. Instead, they focused on her terrible behavior at the baby shower. Stealing party supplies, insulting a pregnant woman, and showing up late without food were the real problems.
However, many Redditors were most outraged by the brother’s response. Calling his sister a “stupid bitch” crossed a major line. Several top commenters suggested the bride should revoke his plus-one entirely as punishment for his verbal abuse.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This case of a brother bringing cam girl wedding drama shows that actions have consequences. The bride has every right to protect her wedding from disruptive guests, regardless of their profession. Moreover, the brother’s abusive language only proved he doesn’t respect boundaries. This is a clear example of wedding drama where family loyalty doesn’t excuse bad behavior or family conflicts over reasonable requests.
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