I (M30) and my brother (M32) are not so close from the beginning mainly due to favoritism and i being the unwanted middle child, we have a younger sister (F29).

we have farm lands but the farm were not so huge and yeild of the farm is comparatively very low, not enough for our family. so when my mom got an opportunity to send one of her sons to foreign land to work, she decided to send me instead because she wanted her favorite child to be with her, my brother.

eventhough i got married recently and leaving for work means leaving my wife here at the village because the pay and working conditions were not good enough alongside i have to keep on sending money at home also. i left for work & worked for 5 years with only 2 home visits a year, tough time for my wife & kid. i also had to miss my child birth because of this but i never regretted that because i always use to think that the struggle i am doing now will make future of my children bright.

in those 5 years i gained a lot of exposure and decided to start something of my own, for this i had to sell half of my share of land, my family (mother, brother and sister) were not so happy about it as they thought i am doing something very stupid. they didn’t supported any of this but i still did it and it turns out to be the best thing i have ever done in my life, my business made me a good chunk of money then i finally decided to move my wife and kid out of the village and settle in city where i purchased a new house.

everything was going well for me until my mom brother and sister demanded that whatever fortune i made should be divided equally between me and my brother.
there reasoning for this is – i only get to work outside and get the exposure for my business because my brother took care of my family at the village, and if not him i were never able to even get out of the village. so whatever success i got after moving out of the village was not of my own but a shared success with my brother and he should get half of it. while my reasoning is – i never choose to go, i was forced because he wanted to stay and we didn’t have enough for all of us. whatever time i was outside working i was sending money home regularly so its not that hes taking care of my family for free, he getting paid for it also when i was outisde my brother used to work on my share of land also so whatever money generated from it used to go to him only, not to my wife i would also like to mention that if i choose someone else to work on my land then i would have got a much higher amount than the amount my brother was telling me hes generating from my share of land but i didnt because deep down i also wanted him to be present for my family eventhough that means sacrificing some money.

my extended family and my community is also supporting my brother claims and everyone except for my family and my wife family are against me and calling me AH for not giving half of my fortune to my brother.