Brother Demands Sister Be His Live-In Maid After College …
A college nursing student asked Reddit if she’s wrong for refusing to be her brother’s live-in maid after he dropped out of school and declared himself “man of the house.” Her brother works construction, helps with bills occasionally, and now expects her to clean every single day like it’s her full-time job.
The Backstory
After their father passed away, this woman’s brother completely transformed his role in the family. He dropped out of his business major and started working construction. The sister suspects he wasn’t going to graduate anyway.
Now he contributes to some household bills and fixes cars or small repairs every few weeks or months. But he uses these occasional contributions to justify bossing his sister around daily. She’s a nursing major who already does one-third of household chores, cleaning the kitchen and bathroom two to three times per week.
Their mother works six days a week and rarely defends the daughter. She treats the son like an angel despite his demanding behavior.
The Incident
The drama exploded when the sister came home from lectures to find her brother fixing a cabinet. His first words weren’t a greeting – they were an accusation about dirty dishes that had been sitting for two days.
She immediately clarified that those weren’t her dishes. She always cleans up after herself. The dirty dishes belonged to him and their mother. When she refused to be his brother live-in maid, he launched into guilt-tripping mode.
He claimed he’d just worked a thirteen-hour day and immediately started fixing things around the house. He demanded she clean the house and do dishes, calling her a “leech” when she refused. His sexist comment about “typical females of this generation” really sealed the deal on his character.
The brother then pulled his ultimate power move. He sent her a bank transfer request for six hundred dollars labeled “Brake and Oil change. Parts and labour.” Apparently, he’d been providing free mechanic services, but now wanted payment since she wouldn’t be his personal cleaning service.
What Reddit Said
Most commenters shocked everyone by siding with the brother, despite his awful attitude. The top comment revealed crucial information – apparently the brother gives his sister weekly pocket money from his wages on top of free housing and car repairs.
Many pointed out that she’s an adult living rent-free while her brother and mother work full-time to support the household. They argued that students have more flexible schedules than construction workers, so doing extra chores isn’t unreasonable.
Some acknowledged that his “females of this generation” comment was gross and sexist. However, they still felt her entitlement to free housing, free mechanic work, and spending money without contributing more was worse.
A few suggested this was a clear case of everyone being wrong – him for the sexist attitude, her for the entitled behavior toward family members supporting her financially.
The Verdict
Surprisingly, YTA according to most commenters, despite the brother’s problematic language and attitude. The revelation about weekly allowances and free services completely changed the dynamic from sibling conflict to financial dependency.
This story highlights how family financial arrangements can complicate household responsibility discussions. When someone provides significant financial support, the expectation for increased contributions often follows. Reddit’s reaction shows that even sexist behavior doesn’t excuse perceived freeloading in family drama situations.
The broader lesson involves honest communication about expectations when living arrangements include financial support. Both siblings needed clearer boundaries about contributions versus compensation, though the AITA stories community clearly felt the sister’s entitlement overshadowed her brother’s attitude problems in this particular relationship drama.
From r/AmItheAsshole (1,467 upvotes)