The Original Post
this is not a fake post. just want to vent
for over a year, my brother told our family that his wife (34F) was cheating on him. He had stories, timelines, emotional breakdowns and even faked suicide and the whole thing.
Because of this, everyone supported him, distanced themselves from my SIL and i even said alot of bad things and she ended up killing herself instead and we believed she destroyed the marriage until the very end.
Last week, I learned the truth there was no cheating.
My brother admitted that he made it all up while he was so drunk. i gave him black eyes on both of his eyes and left his house. sue me!
He fabricated it. He created an elaborate, long-term lie because he wanted out of the marriage and didn’t want to be seen as the bad guy.
This means my SIL’s reputation was destroyed for over a year and died painfully. She lost support, was judged by family, and carried the blame for something she never did. my brother got sympathy and validation.
I’m furious. I feel disgusted by how calculated this was. I told my brother that what he did was cruel and manipulative, and that he owes her a massive apology and even after death , he will never be forgiven and i told the truth to everyone in our side of the family He says I should stay out of it because it’s his life?? and that telling the truth now would just reopen wounds and wont do anything good. wheres his conscience?
Now my family is split. Some say I should drop it because the marriage is already over and shes dead. Others agree it’s wrong but don’t want drama anymore specially on her side of the family.
its never fair with men.
i hate him and i hate myself for believing him despite her being my closest friend. i betrayed her.
the guilt is killing me each day not telling her mom, her brother and her son the truth
maybe i should keep my mouth shut. how do i go on with this guilt?
What Reddit Said
Redditors were absolutely horrified by the brother’s actions. Most users immediately called for the sister to expose the truth and clear the deceased woman’s name. However, they also recognized the incredible guilt and pain the sister was experiencing.
The top comments demanded justice for the victim. Many shared similar stories of family members who drove spouses to suicide through lies. Moreover, users emphasized that the brother was directly responsible for his wife’s death through his calculated deception.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: the sister must tell the truth about her brother lied about wife cheating. Reddit firmly believes the deceased woman deserves to have her reputation restored posthumously. This represents a devastating case of family betrayal where manipulation led to tragic consequences. Users agreed the brother should face full accountability for his role in his wife’s death through relationship drama he manufactured.
Original post from r/TrueOffMyChest (1,341 upvotes, 172 comments)