I (33F) am now 8 months pregnant. I found out that my now ex boyfriend (34M) has been seeing a woman who he swore there was nothing going on with but I found out otherwise.

Needless to say I’m very hurt by this. He has been seeing before and during my entire pregnancy behind my back and straight up lying to me about it. Even going as far as lying about hanging with friends to go to her place. When I found this out he said he was breaking it off and that he was in the process of ending things with her and asked for time. I refused and told him I was removing myself from the love triangle I never asked to be in.

After long drawn out talks about this he admitted that she was not happy about my pregnancy and was even talking about being at the hospital because she doesn’t want him to share that intimate moment with me. Apparently they’ve talked about my pregnancy extensively and how she feels about it. He tells me that he shut this down but I am feeling very uneasy about this. Obviously me exiting the picture means he’s going to be with her and I do not want her anywhere near me or my child or her accompanying him to the hospital while I’m giving birth, which I feel he would allow because he values her feelings when it comes to our child based on what he told me.

I told him based on this energy and her feeling so strongly that she’d come to the hospital while I’m giving birth just to interfere or monitor him has me on high alert and that I no longer wanted him there during my labor and delivery. He swears that he told her do not do this and that he told her no. But I feel like even if she isn’t physically there she’s going to interfere regardless through her texting and calling and distracting him during labor. I also don’t want in giving any information about my labor, delivery, complications, or any information or pictures of my baby.

He is not happy about this decision but I am feeling very firm about this because this woman seems unpredictable and has a negative view about my pregnancy and baby to the point she’s come in between him helping me prepare for our child and he admitted they’ve talked about the paternity of my child possibly not being his which is far from the truth. I do not want him there bringing in negative energy into that sacred space.

He didn’t care about the baby all this time even questioned paternity and now is upset he can’t participate in the birth? Why does it matter now? Should I continue with my decision despite his desire to be there knowing all that I know now?