The Original Post
This is what i want to say to you but i cant so im writing it out.
I had social media but i was 13 so my mom monitored the site and saw that comment you wrote. You made that comment under a picture of me that i posted where my mom had done my hair in a cultural hairstyle from the country we are from. It was such a great day and my mom was so proud of herself. I know she saw that comment because she has never tried to do my hair again in that style even though i have begged her numerous times over the years. She instead always pays for someone else to do it. I know that comment bothered her because she took my hair down from that style the next day. I know it bothered her because she spent the next few months constantly reassuring me about my appearance to an extreme degree.
I dont care that we were both kids when you said it. I dont care that we are both adults now. You hurt me, my mom and i hold a fucking grudge. I dont care that mutual friends think we are a fit. I dont care that i know you have a crush. I dont care how nice you are to me; stop fucking trying. I would never say yes. I try to fucking avoid you at all costs but it is a small town and we share friends. Honestly, Go fuck yourself. I wish i could say this to your stupid fucking face but i would sound insane. I would lose friends over this. I hate you and it’s laughable that you think i would like you or ever give you a chance. God, just leave me alone and no, i will never get over it. I dont care how immature it is.
This is what i want to say to you so badly, every fucking time i see your stupid face but i cant and since i cant avoid you or tell people close to me, im posting it.
Go fuck yourself- it felt really good writing this out. yea, i feel better.
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly supported OP’s decision to hold this childhood comment grudge. Most users agreed that 13 is old enough to understand the cruelty of commenting “ew” on someone’s appearance. However, what really struck a nerve with commenters was the lasting impact on OP’s mother.
The top comment perfectly captured the sentiment, suggesting OP should respond with “ew” if he ever asks her out. Meanwhile, other users emphasized that the “you were just kids” excuse doesn’t erase real harm. In fact, many shared similar experiences of childhood cruelty that still affected them as adults.
The Verdict
Reddit’s verdict was crystal clear: OP has every right to maintain her childhood comment grudge dating stance. The fact that his words changed her mother’s behavior permanently shows the deep, lasting damage of seemingly small cruelties. This resonates with many stories in relationship drama where past actions have consequences. Moreover, this highlights how friendship conflicts from youth can shape adult relationships forever.
Original post from r/TrueOffMyChest (4,430 upvotes, 195 comments)