Tifu by bringing my crush to a bar. There is this girl I met let’s call her Jen. I over the last week have developed a huge crush on Jen and I have been trying to spend as much time with her as possible. We have been FaceTiming almost every night and spending a ton of time together. Jen is a social butterfly and enjoys having drinks so I thought hey she hasn’t really explored the bars in the area so I should take her out! Now we go out to the bar and mind you it’s a 45 minute drive to the bars from where we live. I’m super excited and really enjoying the car ride there we are talking listening to music and having a good time. As we get to the bar one of Jen’s friends is at one of the bars we wanted to go to so we decided to meet up with them. Let’s call her Holly and her boyfriend Percy. We begin hanging with holly and Percy and buy a round of drinks. Holly begins matching up Jen with men in the bar. After about 20 minutes in the first bar holly walks up to this guy and pairs off Jen and him we will call him Doug. Doug is a really nice guy and ends up hitting it off with Jen. I imagined they would flirt and then Jen’s attention would be back on me. After about 3 hours of being out it becomes apparent that’s not the case. Percy begins trying to pair me off with girls in the bar and I kinda told him about how I was here with Jen and I was hoping to make this like a date night and he leans over to me and says “dude I’m so sorry me and holly did not read that at all” so after him hyping me up about Jen he and holly decide to call it a night. I am Jen’s ride home so I literally third wheeled with Jen and Doug. After another hour I let Jen know hey I’m going to need to tap out soon and head home (I hadn’t drank since the start of the night and was getting really uncomfortable watching her and Doug) she said “oh it’s fine Doug can bring me home” I walked her to my car to get her keys and her charger and said bye to Doug and Jen. I felt ashamed and embarrassed as soon as they walked away from the car. I immediately sobbed for about 15 minutes. After taking some time to breathe and compose myself I drove the hour home took a nap and now I am chuckling about how stupid I was in this situation and how if I had just been more transparent about my feelings I could have dodged this entire situation.

TL;DR:

I took my crush out to the bars hoping for a date, but her friends didn’t realize that and actively set her up with another guy. She ended up hitting it off with him, I awkwardly third-wheeled all night, and she ultimately went home with him instead of me—turning what I hoped was a date into a painfully clear signal that she doesn’t see me the same way.