The Original Post
I’m Middle Eastern, in my culture some “men” believe they own their wives and can do whatever they want to them, both my dad and brother are like that, they’re disgusting.
My little sister is married to a guy just like that and he’s an abusive son of a bitch who keeps hitting my sister left and right, and my dad and brother don’t care, whenever I tried to speak about it they told me to shut up and that my sister is his wife and he gets to do whatever he wants with her because she’s his. I’ve had many fights with all of them about it.
But the worst was 3 years ago, my sister came home crying, her face was so red because of how bad the piece of shit beat her, again my dad didn’t care, I was fucking furious I went to their house and beat his ass, I took a friend with me and we beat him like he beat my sister. Once my dad found out he slapped me and called me a disrespectful son of a bitch because to him disrespecting your in laws puts a bad public image of you and to him that’s worse than that in law beating his daughter.
We had a fight and he ended up disowning me from the entire family and he went and apologised to the bastard and he even made my sister apologise to him.
I was banned from the entire family and I can’t even speak to my sister anymore which is the only one that hurts me. As a girl dad myself I fucking hate my dad and I resent him and any man who thinks like him, and I’m glad he’s not in my life anymore, he’s pathetic and not a real man at all, if any piece of shit puts his hands on my daughter I’ll cut them off.
How can any man not only stay silent but support and apologise to a guy that’s actively abusing his daughter? What kind of man is that? I’m glad that’s no longer in my life and I’m even more glad I’m not living in that hell hole anymore
What Reddit Said
Redditors overwhelmingly supported OP’s actions against the abusive brother-in-law. Most praised him for being the only family member willing to protect his sister. However, many expressed heartbreak over the father’s betrayal and the cultural dynamics at play.
Several commenters suggested OP should have also confronted his father physically. Others worried about the sister’s safety now that OP can no longer protect her. The consensus was clear: OP did the right thing despite the painful consequences.
The Verdict
The overwhelming verdict: OP is absolutely justified. This case where a dad disowned son protecting sister reveals toxic family dynamics and cultural abuse. Reddit praised OP’s courage in standing up for his sister when no one else would. This represents a clear case of family conflict where doing the right thing came at a devastating personal cost.
Original post from r/TrueOffMyChest (3,856 upvotes, 119 comments)