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DIL Ignores Text Invites, MIL Forces Group Chat Drama

📅 February 13, 2026 👁️ 4 views ⏱️ 3 min read

A mother-in-law got tired of her daughter-in-law ignoring text invitations then claiming she was never invited. She started including her son in all group chats to prove the invites were sent. Now he’s demanding she stop because it’s “causing problems” in his marriage.

The Original Post

edit: I have sent screenshots befor, he claims they are not on her phone so I am making it up.… I think she just deleted them or soemthing

I will call my DIL, Ashley. Ashley is horrible at responding to text and invites. It is very frustrating and it has caused many many issues

I don’t know if she is just forgetting to respond or just doenst care overall. The main issue is I will text her to invite her somewhere and then she doesn’t respond. We go do the event and then I get shit for not inviting her. I do invite her she just doesn’t respond.

At the beginning I thought I had the wrong number but that is not the case. The big issue happened at Christmas. The girls in the family were all invited to go a ski resort. It was a single night trip. She was in the group chat and I personally texted her. She never responded.

We went on the trip and people posted online. I got a pissed off call form my son about not inviting her. I told him I did and he didn’t believe me…

They refused to come to Christmas if I didn’t apologize. I didn’t apologize since I did invite her. After that I have been sending every single invite ( only been two so far) in a group chat that my son has been in.

Our latest outing was last weekend and it was just grabbing dinner. My son called me last night asking me to stop including him in the texts and I told him no. He claims it is causing problems and I told him that isn’t my problem. I am sick of being accused of lying about not inviting her.

He ain’t talking to me at the moment and other people are following my lead with this.

Am I being unreasonable

What Reddit Said

Redditors overwhelmingly supported the mother-in-law’s strategy. Most agreed she found a clever solution to an impossible situation. The top comment praised her for refusing to be falsely accused of lying.

However, many users pointed out the real issue. The son now sees his wife ignoring the invitations but prefers blaming his mother instead. Moreover, commenters noted he can’t have it both ways – either trust his mother or stop confronting her about invites.

In fact, several Redditors mentioned that other family members are following the same group chat approach. Therefore, the daughter-in-law’s behavior has created a family-wide communication policy.

The Verdict

The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This situation perfectly illustrates how a daughter in law ignores text invites can create unnecessary family conflict. The mother-in-law’s group chat solution provides necessary proof while protecting herself from false accusations. This is classic family drama where one person’s poor communication creates problems for everyone else.

Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (3,909 upvotes, 411 comments)

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