AITA for Not Masking My Disability in D&D Group Drama
The Original Post
l am a part of a D&D group with other neurodivergent adults, that play in person every Tuesday. Me and one other girl R both have Echolalia (Echolalia is an involuntary tic) and we both tic frequently at D&D. which was never a problem until now, even with X. X came back to the DnD table after a few months of taking a break from the group. at the beginning of the session R and I were joking around and our Echolalia gets more frequent with elevated emotions. when X arrived and heard us she politely asked us to stop because she was overstimulated from the day. we thought she just wanted a few minutes of quiet until game started. as the night the continued, so did our Echolalia, as it’s involuntary. X snapped at us to stop again, we apologized and said we didn’t realize she wanted us to stop all night and that we can’t control it. I offered to move to the other end of the table and X blew me off.
4 days later X went into our discord server to call us out and accused us of using our disability as an excuse. R and I tried to get X in a private message but X kept going at it in the server. saying that we are horrible for not taking her feelings into account. X sent “I want you to know what pieces of human garbage you are, and want to shame you. i want you banned from every space that I am in.”
now 10 days later X is posting on social media that R and I are unsafe people. X also posted that we wont apologize but she has us both blocked everywhere.
Edit: I thought it was (per my dr) Echolalia but by reading your comments it’s probably not. Mine are involuntary.
What Reddit Said
Reddit’s response was surprisingly divided on this neurodivergent conflict. Many initially supported OP, especially condemning X’s extreme reaction and public harassment campaign. However, experienced autistic users began questioning whether the vocal behaviors were truly involuntary.
The tide shifted when commenters pointed out that echolalia can often be controlled to some degree. Critics argued OP was hiding behind their diagnosis rather than making reasonable accommodations. Moreover, they suggested X may have been masking her discomfort for months before finally breaking down.
The Verdict
The consensus leaned toward YTA (You’re the Asshole) after deeper discussion about disability masking expectations. Reddit determined that neurodivergent spaces require mutual accommodation, not just one-sided demands. This case highlights the complex dynamics in disability-related conflicts where multiple needs clash. While X’s public harassment was inappropriate, OP’s refusal to attempt any compromise was deemed equally problematic in friendship situations.
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