The Original Post
just found out last night within the first year and a half of mine and my partners 3 yr relationship he was sleeping with someone else, like she’d show up at his place the same day I’d be going back home after spending 1-2 weeks with him. it’s crazy, I remember back then having like a weird reaction “down there” after one of the times we were sexually active so I asked him about it, and if he was sleeping with other people because I wasn’t at all. he lied to my face. I get it was a few years back, but the way I see it is the foundation of our relationship is a fucking farce. He still had her texts and nudes, plus the ones he sent her.
He asked me to marry him on Christmas and now I can’t look at his face without wanting to throw up or cause him physical harm.
What Reddit Said
Reddit was absolutely brutal in their response. The top comment with over 2,000 upvotes told her to give back the ring immediately. Most users pointed out that if he lied for years about this, he’s probably still lying about other things.
However, commenters weren’t just focused on the cheating itself. They emphasized the health risks she faced and urged her to get a full medical checkup. Moreover, many warned that this knowledge would haunt her entire marriage if she went through with it.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: dump him immediately. This engaged partner cheated early relationship scenario represents a fundamental betrayal of trust that Reddit believes cannot be overcome. Users consistently advised that the foundation of lies makes the entire relationship invalid. This is classic relationship drama where the betrayal runs too deep for forgiveness, especially given the years of deception that followed.
Original post from r/TrueOffMyChest (1,190 upvotes, 228 comments)