Ex-Wife Complains About Shared Ex-Husband at Pottery Class
The Original Post
I don’t understand what my husband’s ex-wife wants, I’m fed up.
My husband and I divorced when our kid was 3 years old, there was no infidelity but I just got tired of having to do everything by myself.
I was left with custody and my husband saw our kid only once a week… Yes, only that. All the responsibility is on me and he can be the fun weekend dad.
He soon got a girlfriend, at one point I got a job and I needed him to be of HELP to me and I asked him to take care of our daughter in the afternoons (he doesn’t work at that time), Needless to say, from that day on I became “the problematic ex” for his girlfriend (now ex). Apparently it is a total sin to make a man take care of his daughter but ok, I let it go. I decided to be the problematic ex and continued with my life making him take care of OUR kid too.
When I got another job I stopped taking my daughter there because I know my temper and I was sick of that woman treating my daughter as a nuisance. For years we continue with that ‘weekend father’ thing.
A few years ago they had a child together, the problem is that a year ago they broke up the relationship and he proceeded to become a weekend father again. She and I go to the same pottery class and now she uses that opportunity to complain about our ex.
She says that it hurts her the fact he’s not a present father for his son, that the child does not deserve that treatment to which I only respond “My daughter didn’t deserved that treatment either but here we are”.
Is my ex useless? Yes. But she knew he was useless, she literally saw with her own eyes what her future would be if she divorced him but she went ahead with it. Now I don’t understand what she wants to gain by trying to make an anti-him club.
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly supported OP’s frustration with the situation. Most users agreed that the ex-girlfriend made her own bed by ignoring obvious red flags. They particularly appreciated OP’s blunt response: “My daughter didn’t deserve that treatment either but here we are.”
However, many commenters also shared similar experiences with exes who expected sympathy after mistreating them. Several users noted how these situations often involve people thinking they’re “different” or “special” until reality hits. The consensus was clear: OP owes this woman nothing.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is completely justified in her stance. When an ex wife complains about shared ex husband behavior, she can’t expect sympathy from someone she previously mistreated. This is a classic case of family drama where someone ignored obvious warning signs and now wants support from an unlikely source. Reddit’s advice was simple: avoid the pottery class drama and maintain boundaries with this relationship drama.
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