Father Demands Daughter Tell Him About Her Period Every M…
The Original Post
Growing up my Dad said that I had to tell him and my brother each month when I got my period. For background there were 3 girls and 2 males in the household. This started when I got my period at age 11. His reasoning was that, as a man, he and my brother would need to know when to expect me to be more “hormonal”. When I pushed back and said I had a right to privacy he was adamant that it was his right as a man and my father to know when I was on my period. I did not follow up on this and was lectured several times.
This was many years ago. The issue is my Mom still thinks this is a courteous thing to do and is kind and communicative. I on the other hand disagree and believe it was an invasion of my right to privacy. My Father still, of course, believes he had a right to know.
So, AITA for refusing to tell the men in my household whenever I had my period?
What Reddit Said
Reddit users were overwhelmingly disgusted by the father’s demand. Most commenters called it misogynistic and creepy behavior. They pointed out that requiring period information creates a system where any valid concerns could be dismissed as “just hormones.”
However, users were equally frustrated with the mother’s stance. Many noted that her support of this “courteous communication” enabled the father’s controlling behavior. Moreover, commenters suggested the real issue wasn’t about periods but about power and control over women’s bodies.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This father demands period information case represents a clear violation of bodily autonomy and privacy. Reddit recognized this as classic family dysfunction rooted in misogyny. Furthermore, the fact that the world continued functioning without this information proves how unnecessary and invasive the demand truly was.
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