Friend Dumped Her Kid On Me During Girls Trip – Reddit Drama
The Original Post
I (22F) and a friend (24F) have kids the same age (2). We recently did a girls’ beach trip. I left my child at home with my husband for the first time and in consequence for the first time in two years was child-free (my husband does what he can regarding our kid and does a lot but is gone a lot for work so I’ve never been apart from my kid for more than a few hours before someone says I have a husband issue. That isn’t the issue here). My friend brought her child which no one in the group had a problem with at all. Except my friend has a habit of letting, or rather forcing, others to watch/parent her kid.
Every time we hang out she kinda checks out, goes on her phone or wonders off and sort of… dumps her kid on the friend group. Well, on this beach trip (overnight), she did just that to me. Now, remember this is the first time in a long time I’ve been kid-free (of at least my kid-free) and here she is, dumping her kid on me. Her kid is asking me to play with them, walk with them, you know, kid stuff. And I just want a BREAK. But here my friend is, playing on her phone just totally checked out. I try to redirect her kid back to her saying “oh you should ask your mom to play” to which she says without missing a beat “no, you have more patience for (kids name) anyway. You play with him.”
My blood fucking boiled and I explained to her that I left my kid at home because I wanted to be kid-free for the night and not babysit hers. She rolled her eyes and I just lost it and told her to “stop being lazy and watch your own kid.” Of course, she was pissed but the rest of the group had my back. But my “friend” was so angry I can’t help but feel like I’m in the wrong.
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly supported OP in this situation. Most users were outraged by the friend’s audacity and selfishness. The top comment called out the friend’s behavior as completely unacceptable.
However, many Redditors also offered practical advice for future trips. They suggested establishing clear boundaries beforehand. Moreover, several users recommended avoiding group vacations with parents who bring children.
In fact, the consensus was so strong that even users who are typically critical of confrontational responses supported OP’s outburst. The friend group backing OP up further validated Reddit’s judgment.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This situation perfectly illustrates how some people exploit others’ kindness during what should be relaxing experiences. When a friend dumped kid responsibilities on someone seeking a break, the confrontation was inevitable and justified. This is classic friendship drama involving boundary violations and parenting conflicts.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (2,508 upvotes, 168 comments)