The Original Post
so i went out last night w some friends. one of them (let’s call her Sarah) offered to drive since she doesn’t drink and said she’d stay sober. cool.
everything was fine until like 1am when she suddenly says she’s “too tired” and wants to leave. i told her i was good staying and i’d just uber home later. she kept saying she “felt responsible” for me and wouldn’t leave without me. it honestly turned into a whole thing and i didn’t feel like arguing in the middle of the club so i just went with her.
then once we get to the car she goes, “actually i’m gonna go to my bf’s place, it’s closer.” his place is like 20 mins the opposite direction from mine. she drives there, pulls into a gas station near his house and tells me to just call a ride from there.
the uber back to my place was $25 bc of surge.
if she had just left me at the club like i originally said, i would’ve paid and not cared. but she basically forced me to leave bc she “felt responsible” and then dropped me off halfway so she could see her bf.
so yeah i venmo requested her the $25. now she’s mad saying i’m ungrateful because she already “gave me a ride” and my other friends think i’m being petty over 25 bucks.
idk. it’s not even really about the money. it just feels weird to drag someone out and then leave them at a gas station.
AITA?
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly sided with OP in this situation. The top comment perfectly captured the contradiction: if Sarah truly felt responsible, she wouldn’t have abandoned OP at a gas station. Moreover, commenters pointed out that Sarah could have easily dropped OP off first before visiting her boyfriend.
Users were particularly frustrated by Sarah’s manipulative behavior. She forced OP to leave against her wishes, then failed to follow through on her promise. In fact, many Redditors saw this as a classic bait-and-switch situation where Sarah used “responsibility” as an excuse to control the evening.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This situation perfectly illustrates how a friend forced me leave then ditched me scenarios create legitimate grievances. Sarah’s actions were inconsistent with her stated concerns about responsibility. This falls into classic friendship drama where boundaries were crossed and promises broken.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (3,723 upvotes, 183 comments)