# Know your friends and never underestimate your intuition.

I (then 20F) was reminded that years ago today, one of my friends (then 22F) was hanging out with someone from work (then 45M) and he spiked her drink. She thought he was safe. He was married and always talked about his wife and kids.

I was going to bed and I received some insanely concerning texts from her that made no coherent sense. She didn’t do drugs, and she hadn’t had plans to get drunk but she was clearly severely inebriated. There was no back and forth, she was too far gone by the time I saw the texts to answer any of my questions.

I doubled the speed limit to drive to her house and arrived just in time to prevent him from having s\*x with her unconscious body. I fought with him and ultimately won. Locked him out and called the cops. ​​The cops came and said “Are you sure she didn’t take dr\*gs consensually?” and refused to test her for substances or summon an ambulance – told me to make sure she drinks water. Meanwhile she was unable to even sit up or talk.

I made them take his backpack with them as I’d seen there were Dr\*gs in it and it didn’t belong to her. He caught a DUI charge and got fired from his job because of the resulting turmoil.

I always wonder what happened between him and his wife. My friend was too shaken up by the cops’ reaction to this event to contact her. If the cops didn’t believe the story, why would anyone else? They were like, You came here because of a drunk text? Are you sure she didn’t want all of this? But seriously. Trust your intuition.

Because I trusted mine, my friend is okay. She was previously very trusting of people and this event was deeply traumatizing to her, but it could have been a lot worse.

This event was deeply traumatizing to me, too. For years I slept with my ringer on maximum because I was afraid to miss another text like that. I almost didn’t make it in time because my phone was on vibrate.