Friend Makes Insensitive Religious Comment at Mom’s Funeral
The Original Post
My (24F) friend (25F) came to the funeral for my mom, who died of cancer around Christmas time. She came over to me to give me her condolences and asked about the details of how my mom passed. I told her it was my mom’s second battle with cancer and how she had lots of complications.
She said “I’m so glad nothing like that has ever happened to me or my family. We’re blessed and highly favored. God doesn’t play about us.” This made me extremely angry.
I said “Glad to know your God plays about my family and all the other people in the world dying of cancer.”
I caused a scene and got really upset. She and her family said I’m wrong for attacking someone just being kind and offering their condolences, and that’s probably why God didn’t look after my Mom.
I said I want them gone from the funeral. Since then, I haven’t spoken to them or any of the people defending them. AITA?
What Reddit Said
Reddit users overwhelmingly supported the grieving daughter. Most commenters found the friend’s remarks deeply inappropriate and tone-deaf. The timing made it exponentially worse – saying your family is “blessed and highly favored” at someone else’s funeral implies the deceased family wasn’t worthy of protection.
However, Redditors were particularly outraged by the friend’s family doubling down. Their suggestion that God didn’t protect the mother because of the daughter’s reaction crossed every line imaginable. Moreover, many pointed out this revealed the friend’s true character during a moment of grief.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This friend’s religious remark at the funeral was spectacularly insensitive. In fact, most agreed the friend deserved to be kicked out for making someone else’s tragedy about her own family’s supposed divine favor. This falls squarely into friendship drama where boundaries were crossed at the worst possible moment.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (7,175 upvotes, 1,159 comments)