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Family drama at my aunt’s 80th b day. Are these red flags too much for 5 months in? I 33 (M) girlfriend (32) F.

We are at my aunt’s 80th birthday party. There are lots of deep-rooted family members there, and we are a very tight family that always get along. My girlfriend of 5 months is still very new to the immediate family, and she is still a stranger to most of these people. So, fast forward to mealtime. My son accidentally lets his plate of spaghetti slip onto the floor while walking to the table (an honest-to-God accident). As I say, “It’s ok little man, accidents happen. We will get this cleaned up.” Her response is, “See, this is why we pay attention,” in a very controlling tone. Again, he was paying attention; it was just an honest mistake with a lot going on around him. I mean, he’s only 6 it happens. My mother offers to go get him a change of shirt out of the car, but for some reason, this upsets my girlfriend, and she says to my brother, “Your mom is going to need to learn who I am. I said I will clean him up in the bathroom. She doesn’t need to get him another shirt.” Now, mind you, my mom, his grandmother, has been a second mother in the most literal sense due to me being a single father for most of his life.

Fast forward to mealtime. Literally, every bite he takes is being policed by my girlfriend, to the point where it’s extremely overbearing. I could tell my son was uncomfortable with the situation, but before I could say anything, my brother says politely, “I think he’s done a good job, maybe that’s enough for today.” To which she replies to him, “Clearly, you don’t know who I am. You’re going to have to learn.” My brother simply replies, “Wow,” as to keep from starting an issue, because there is a time and place for everything. I tell my son, “Take a few more bites, and we can be done,” to which she replies, “Wow, it’s pretty clear whose side you are going to be on.” I reply, There is a time and a place, and this is not it.” Her response to this is to get up and leave the entire party without telling a single person goodbye and then proceeds to give me the silent treatment for the next 24 hours.

TLDR: Girlfriend seems to want to control me and my kid very ealry on.