The Original Post
Need to vent about this!
Been dating this girl for 8 months. Last tuesday i check my Oobit balance and 820 euros just gone. I keep usdc in my wallet and spend it through the app for daily stuff.
Pulled up transaction history, its a charge from some boutique in Chiado. I dont shop there so i knew something was up.
Asked my girlfriend if she knew anything about it. She got defensive immediately then admitted she used my phone to pay for a prada bag while i was showering.
Didnt ask, didnt mention it, just took my phone and paid. She knows my passcode cause i trusted her (clearly a mistake)
When i said thats theft, she flipped out, told me im being dramatic n its “just crypto” and i have “so much just sitting there’
That bag is my rent for the month. Now shes acting like im the bad guy for being upset
Her argument is we talk about future together so whats mine is hers. I said thats not how it works without permission, maybe if we get married someday we combine finances but that happens because both people sit down and agree to it. But where it gets absolutely hilarious is when a friend of hers said “real men buy their girlfriends bags” like… wtf, ofc im not against buying her stuff but she literally stole from me. Stealing is stealing.
I dunno, but this is a massive red flag :s
What Reddit Said
Reddit was absolutely brutal in their response. Most commenters immediately labeled this as theft, not a relationship disagreement. They urged OP to contact the store, cancel the transaction, and change all his passwords immediately.
However, many Redditors suspected this wasn’t her first offense. The top comment warned OP to check his entire purchase history for smaller transactions she might have made as “test runs.” Meanwhile, others suggested pressing charges and treating this as the crime it legally is.
The consensus was clear: her excuses were manipulative nonsense. Her claim that “real men buy girlfriends bags” particularly enraged commenters, who pointed out that real partners don’t steal from each other.
The Verdict
The overwhelming verdict: this girlfriend stole money for bag and showed zero remorse. Reddit unanimously advised ending the relationship immediately. This represents a massive breach of trust that goes far beyond typical relationship drama. Moreover, her defensive reaction and victim-blaming behavior revealed deeper character issues that won’t improve with time.
Original post from r/relationship_advice (1,744 upvotes, 322 comments)