Girlfriend Won’t Work Claims Depression But Has Energy fo…
The Original Post
We have been together for two years and I have paid for every single bill, every meal, and every rent check. She claims she is too depressed to work or even do basic chores around the house. I felt bad for her at first and did everything to support her. But lately I noticed she has plenty of energy to spend 10 hours scrolling TikTok or going out for drinks with her girls. The second I suggest she gets a part-time job to help with the debt she put us in, she starts crying and says I don’t understand mental illness. I’m tired of being the only adult. I realized I’m not her boyfriend, I’m just her personal servant. I’m moving out this weekend and I don’t even feel guilty.
What Reddit Said
Redditors overwhelmingly supported OP’s decision to leave. Many shared similar experiences with partners who weaponized mental health claims. The top comment perfectly captured the sentiment: being too depressed to work but also too depressed to be homeless makes work the obvious choice.
Users praised OP for finally recognizing the manipulation. However, some expressed shock that he endured this dynamic for two full years. Most agreed that genuine depression doesn’t selectively affect only work and responsibilities while leaving energy for entertainment.
The Verdict
The consensus was crystal clear: OP made the right choice. This girlfriend won’t work claims depression situation revealed classic financial abuse and manipulation tactics. Reddit celebrated his escape from what many recognized as a one-sided relationship drama where he was being used as a financial provider rather than treated as an equal partner.
Original post from r/TrueOffMyChest (3,149 upvotes, 248 comments)