A 28-year-old woman told her 84-year-old grandpa he bullies family members. As a result, none of his grandchildren call him anymore. Here’s what happened when she refused to apologize.
Why This Grandpa Bullies Family Members: The Backstory
The woman went to help her grandparents set up new phones. Her grandpa has a long history of explosive behavior. Moreover, he’s kicked out multiple grandchildren from his house over minor issues.
Her brother got kicked out for not talking enough. Meanwhile, her sister lasted only four months before another rage incident. However, the grandpa still expects regular phone calls from everyone.
The Phone Setup Incident
During the customer service call, the grandmother asked questions about increasing font size. The grandfather repeatedly shushed her. Then he told his granddaughter to “shut up” while she was helping.
She said “no” twice. Consequently, he took off his jacket and demanded she leave his house. Furthermore, he threatened to call the police when she refused to go.
The grandmother grabbed her arm and asked her to stay. Finally, the granddaughter told him he was mean and a bully. In addition, she explained that’s exactly why none of his grandchildren call him.
What Reddit Said
Most people said the granddaughter was not the asshole. However, many pointed out that the grandfather actually is a bad person, not just unpleasant. In fact, several commenters noted his behavior constitutes clear bullying.
Some pointed out that the grandmother seemed scared of him. Meanwhile, others praised the granddaughter for standing up to his behavior. Nevertheless, a few suggested the grandfather is unlikely to change at age 84.
The Verdict
Overall verdict: The granddaughter is NTA (Not the Asshole). Sometimes family members need to hear hard truths about their behavior. Therefore, calling out someone who bullies family members can be necessary, even if it causes temporary drama. For more stories like this, check out our family drama and AITA stories sections.
From r/AmItheAsshole (2,976 upvotes)