The Original Post
I (28, F) am British but ethnically Korean and I was brought up always to take your shoes off indoors (its a big part of korean culture not to wear shoes indoors). I know not everyone does that in their own homes, but in my home I dont wear shoes and I don’t want others wearing shoes either, so I politely ask guests to take their shoes.
Recently I had a hosted a dinner party for about 8 friends. Nobody had a problem except one who said her shoes were part of her outfit and she didn’t want to take them off. I told her I’m sorry but I insist and she got angry. She refused and ended up storming off.
Am I the asshole?
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly supported the host’s position. Most commenters emphasized the simple principle of “your house, your rules.” Many pointed out that removing shoes indoors is common courtesy in numerous cultures and climates.
However, some Redditors were particularly harsh toward the departing guest. One commenter mockingly asked “Who does she think she is – Carrie Bradshaw?” Meanwhile, others noted that shoe removal is practical, especially during certain seasons when outdoor shoes track dirt and moisture.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: Not the Asshole (NTA). Reddit agreed that hosts have every right to set reasonable boundaries about guests remove shoes in their homes. Moreover, the guest’s dramatic exit over a simple cultural courtesy was seen as unnecessarily rude. This falls into classic cultural conflicts where respecting traditions clashes with personal preferences in friendship situations.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (1,583 upvotes, 1,201 comments)