Guy Says He Wants Friendship But Gets Jealous When She Dates

So was talking to this guy, and I was really into him.. and he made me aware he just wanted to only be friends. I asked him flat out one day. “What do you want with me”. He replied, “I want to be just friends”. So I immediately put him in the friends only bucket and started treating him like a friend. He would talk to me about the women he was talking to. He seems to like messy women. I would be a friend and give him feedback.

Fast forward to me deciding I’m going to date again. And I’m talking to him about a few men I’ve matched with and I’m getting to know, having the initial convos to see if I want to meet them and take it further. Yanno healthy dating. And I’m just sharing my experiences, like friends do. Like he does with me regarding women.

So one evening I’m telling him how I have a date for the coming weekend. The convo goes well. I’m happy. Excited about my date. We get off the phone that evening.

Next morning first thing in the morning I get a voice text from him telling me how he doesn’t want me in a position where I have to pick between him and another man. That’s not fair to him or another man. How he doesn’t want to be in competition with a man so he is going to vacate our relationship.

I responded by telling him that he told me he wanted to be just friends and I put him in the just friends lane. How he isn’t even in the category of potential. That I’m not even at a point where I would have to pick between two men. I’m in the initial getting to know someone initially see if I even want to get to them in person. However, all that’s beside the point as I no longer see him as anything other than a friend so his concern about me having to choose between him and another is unfounded.

He responded by telling me he’s still removing himself.

Wtf is wrong with people that they don’t want you, but don’t want you to go anywhere else?

Weird af.

I ended up telling him.

It just dawned on me i think when you told me you just wanted to be friends you expected me to respond by telling you I still want you, to still try and chase you. You didn’t expect me to respect that you want to be friends only and….. step back and be your friend. You expected me to beg you and still try to get you to want me. What’s up with that? Seriously.

Of course he hasn’t answered that.

But insight from men as to WTF???