Woman Refuses Homeless Brother After He Trashed Her House
The Original Post
I (29F) own a small house I worked my ass off to buy and fix up. My brother (31M) has always been a total mess with jobs and life in general.
Last year he begged to stay with me ,just a couple months, because he’d landed a good job right here in our state, super close to my house. He swore he’d save up quick and move out on his own. I said yes but set clear rules: pay some bills, clean up, no parties, stick to the job.
He never paid anything, trashed the place, had loud friends over all hours, borrowed my car without asking, and let his secret dog pee everywhere including my new rug. He ended up losing that job anyway, and after months of hell, I kicked him out.
Now he’s homeless again, but he says he’s got another job lined up in the exact same area and is crying that he needs a place to crash while he “gets stable.” Swears he’s changed and will follow rules this time. I said no I can’t handle that stress and damage again.
He called me heartless. Aunt and cousins are guilting me hard about family coming first and second chances. My friends say I’m right to protect my home and sanity.
What Reddit Said
Redditors overwhelmingly supported OP’s decision to refuse her brother. Most commenters pointed out the clear pattern of disrespect and boundary violations. The top comment sarcastically suggested redirecting the brother to the guilt-tripping relatives instead.
However, users also questioned why family members weren’t offering their own homes. Moreover, many noted that the brother’s homelessness likely stems from similar behavior with other people. In fact, his track record suggests he hasn’t actually changed at all.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This homeless brother trashed house situation demonstrates why setting boundaries with family is crucial. Reddit recognized that protecting one’s home and mental health isn’t heartless—it’s necessary. This falls into classic family conflict territory where enabling bad behavior helps no one.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (1,579 upvotes, 162 comments)