The Original Post
I just need to get this off my chest because I’m worried that my wife will think I’m a creep if I tell her.
Me and my wife have been together for about 15 years, and in those years we’ve had a healthy sex life, and i’ve always had an attraction to her. We always made sure that we were both getting pleasure and that neither of us felt dissatisfied with intimacy.
Recently we had our first child together and I first expected that my sex drive would go down, not because I thought that I wouldn’t find my wife attractive anymore but because of testosterone levels dropping. But since she gave birth to our daughter I’ve been obsessed with her. I can’t help it, just seeing her new look turns me on. When we’re both getting ready in the mornings and we’re changing, my heart races and I get an erection. I do my best through all of this to not make her feel uncomfortable, so when this happens I tell her that i will change in the bathroom. Sometimes when we’re both in the living room my attraction is so deep that I can’t take my eyes off her.
I know that at this moment in time my wife‘s main priority (and also mine) is our baby girl, and is definitely not in the mood for sex. So I know that I will have to wait quite awhile until she gets her sex drive back. When I’m feeling too horny and I’m struggling to contain myself, I lock myself in our bedroom and I masturbate to the thought of my wife.
I obviously keep this mostly to myself because she’s healing, exhausted, and dealing with a million things, and I never want her to feel pressured or objectified. I don’t mind waiting because what matters the most to me during intimacy is that we’re both enjoying the experience, what makes sex good to me is not quantity but quality.
Anyway. I feel a little unhinged admitting this, but there it is.
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly praised this husband’s respectful approach. Users were impressed by his consideration for his wife’s healing process and his refusal to pressure her. However, many encouraged him to share his feelings in a non-sexual way.
The top comments focused on channeling his attraction into affection and emotional support. Moreover, several users pointed out that postpartum women often struggle with body image. Therefore, knowing her husband finds her beautiful could boost her confidence significantly.
The Verdict
The consensus was clear: this husband attracted to his postpartum wife should absolutely tell her how beautiful she is. Reddit viewed his restraint and consideration as exemplary husband behavior. This heartwarming story shows how marriage advice can help navigate sensitive postpartum situations with love and respect.
Original post from r/TrueOffMyChest (3,051 upvotes, 160 comments)