Husband Says He Misses His “Skinny Wife” After Weight Gain
The Original Post
I’ll cut to the chase. My husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for almost 5 years. When we met – and for most of my teen and adult life, I’ve been 120 lbs at 5’2. A little over a year ago now, I check my weight and I’d gained 20lbs. My life hasn’t changed all that much except for a new medication and I’ve gotten older. I assume it’s hormonal in addition to maybe age since I started working out 4 times a week for like 6 months but the weight didn’t budge. I even tried to do a Hers weight loss pill plan but legit nothing happened and I didn’t lose any weight in 3 months.
Since then, I’m still focused on getting stronger but I’ve stopped worrying about my weight. To be fair, I carry it extremely evenly and my assets have gotten bigger as well which is fun. My husband has even vocally seemed to enjoy this. For context, he’s extremely active these past 3 years. He does ultimate frisbee like 4-5 times a week where he’s running multiple miles as well as using his office’s gym with friends. I do hot yoga and use weights in a super chill home “gym” since I work from home.
However, the other day he made a comment with a smile and a slight laugh that he missed his “skinny white girl”. This was after we just got back from vacation where I was in a bathing suit the majority the time. I immediately went silent and he tried to say I’m not fat and he could see me spiraling so I joked it off saying “1/10 delivery. You didn’t run that by anyone did you?” and laughed.
It’s been a few days since and I still genuinely don’t know how to respond or what follow up questions to ask. Any advice on how to approach a conversation with him would be appreciated!
What Reddit Said
Redditors were overwhelmingly critical of the husband’s comment. Most users pointed out that saying he misses his “skinny wife” was cruel and poorly timed. The fact that he made this comment right after a vacation where she wore bathing suits made it even worse.
However, commenters praised OP’s witty response about his “1/10 delivery.” Many suggested she shouldn’t let him brush it off as a joke. Instead, they recommended demanding a real explanation for what he was trying to accomplish with that comment.
The Verdict
The consensus was clear: the husband was completely out of line. When a husband misses skinny wife comments surface, it reveals deeper issues about conditional love and support. This is classic relationship advice territory where communication and respect have broken down. Reddit strongly supported OP confronting him directly about his hurtful words.
Original post from r/relationship_advice (1,298 upvotes, 422 comments)