The Original Post
I (34F) am happily married to my husband (38M). We are having a little tiff about his gas and he said I could post here to weigh in on the situation. Happily married, he’s just smelly.
I tend to go to bed before my husband does. He arrives as I’m drifting off to sleep every night. He consistently, nightly, proceeds to unleash the loudest, smelliest farts possible. Multiple. Zero effort to restrain them. Absolutely nauseating in odor. I usually have to get out of bed because the smell is so gross. It keeps me awake longer, and honestly feels disrespectful. If I need to pass gas I get up and go to the toilet until the upset resolves. He says he doesn’t want to get out of bed because he’s too tired, but his disgustingly smelly farts force ME to get out of bed to not vomit.
He had been told by his doctor to avoid lactose and take medication but he refuses to change his diet or take the gas pills. I don’t even care if he just stands up to fart, but when it’s under the covers it’s directly wafted to my nose. He thinks I should just accept his smells as a natural process, and that even though I’m able to hold in my own farts until I’m in the toilet, he should be able to fart as he pleases.
Keep in mind, this man does not fart in public or before we got married in bed. Out of bed is fine. Living room is fine. Kitchen is fine. But under the covers without any restraint MULTIPLE times per night…
Am I the asshole for asking him to get out of bed for his farts so I don’t have to or at least try to hide them?
Edited to add because he says my post is bullshit: his doctor did not diagnose him with lactose intolerance, just said he should avoid it to rule out the gas issue. He also says I should mention he had so much gas and can’t help it, he doesn’t do it on purpose
Update: after reading the comments he says he disagrees with everyone calling him and asshole. Thanks for weighing in, everyone.
What Reddit Said
Reddit overwhelmingly sided with the wife in this smelly situation. Most commenters were appalled by the husband’s complete disregard for his wife’s comfort and sleep. However, many pointed out that the real issue wasn’t the gas itself, but his refusal to make any effort to address it.
The top comments focused on the husband’s selfishness and disrespect. Moreover, Redditors noted the hypocrisy of someone who controls his bodily functions in public but not for his own wife. In fact, many questioned whether this behavior revealed deeper relationship problems.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This case shows how a husband won’t stop farting in bed despite clear solutions being available. Reddit saw this as a classic example of relationship disrespect where basic courtesy was abandoned. Therefore, the husband’s dismissal of the verdict only proved their point about his selfish behavior.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (5,596 upvotes, 2,436 comments)