The Original Post
I’m really frustrated. My in laws pretty much guilt tripped all of us to travel out of state to go to a grandpa’s birthday party and I as a daughter in law have already shared a hotel room with them several times and I’m so uncomfortable. They are paying for us to come because otherwise we can’t afford a hotel and trip at this time as we’re already dealing with infertility. Well I finally spoke up and I said me and my husband need our own room and then they said we would have to help pay then if we didn’t want to share a room. I got pretty upset at them and told them we won’t come then because having our own room is not a luxury it’s a need. Am I the asshole?! EDIT TO ADD: They are paying for everyone to come not just us we are the only ones expected to share a room since we don’t have kids
What Reddit Said
Reddit was split on this family hotel drama. Most users agreed the double standard was unfair and frustrating. However, many pointed out that demanding privacy while expecting someone else to pay creates a complicated situation.
The top comment suggested a compromise: let the husband share the room with his parents while OP stays home. Meanwhile, other users emphasized that privacy isn’t free and OP should either pay or skip the trip entirely.
The Verdict
The consensus leaned toward NTA (Not the Asshole) regarding OP’s frustration with the unfair treatment. However, Reddit also acknowledged that when in laws force room sharing, the solution involves either paying for privacy or finding creative alternatives. This situation perfectly illustrates family drama where financial boundaries clash with personal comfort needs.
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