Man Lost Virginity to Male Cousin – Reddit’s Shocking Res…
The Original Post
As the title says I am a 24 year old Straight man and embarrassingly until 2 weeks ago i was a virgin, not through lack of trying I’ve just haven’t been in a relationship in a long while and when I was I didn’t feel ready to do it with them.
So anyways about 2 weeks ago(about 5 days before Christmas)my cousin(19m) came over to my house after work at about 7pm and we were relaxing and drinking a few beers and he seemed really happy, so I asked him what got him in such a good mood and he asked me to not make fun of him but he got his first BJ today from his girlfriend and it’s embarrassing because of how old he is and then he asked me at what age I got my first ,and I very drunk ,admitted to him that I was still a virgin.
He didn’t believe me and thought I was joking with him but I kept insisting and then something weird happened he put his hand on my thigh and said a guy like you whose smart,funny,and extremely hot has definitely lost their virginity and I said thanks for the compliments but no I want kidding and I’ve never had sex let alone a BJ.
He then took his hand and moved it higher up my thigh at the pint where it was touching my dick and by a lack of better judgment by me I didn’t stop him and then he got out of his seat and bent over and unbuttoned my boxers(we were both sitting in just a Tshirt and Boxers because it was hot ) and took my dick out and well gave me a BJ .
I didn’t stop him because I was drunk and because it felt so good(eventhough i but I’ve never felt sexual attracted to him and never thought he was gay and I’ve never even thought about me being gay so I don’t know honestly know what to think .We saw each other again on Christmas day and the day after and he acted like nothing happened so there’s that. I’m stilled very grossed out but maybe this was just a one time thing or maybe he is Bi ,but now looking back I feel incredibly ashamed .
What Reddit Said
Reddit had mixed reactions to this confession. Many users pointed out that oral sex doesn’t technically count as losing one’s virginity. However, the bigger concern for most commenters was whether this constituted sexual assault given the alcohol involved.
Interestingly, several experienced voices pushed back against the assault narrative. They emphasized that only OP could determine if he felt violated. Moreover, they noted that drunk decisions don’t automatically equal assault if there was mutual participation.
The Verdict
The consensus was split but thoughtful. Most agreed OP hadn’t actually lost his virginity to his cousin in the traditional sense. However, Reddit strongly encouraged him to process his feelings without shame. This complex situation involving family dynamics and sexual identity questions required personal reflection rather than external judgment.
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