I talked to my parents. It wasn’t fun. I confronted my dad about what my sister told me, and he admitted it was true. It was hard for me to hear because I had a boyfriend cheat on me a few months back and my dad had been there for me. I also told him about what his girlfriend had been saying. He was upset about it and said he’d take care of it and talk to her. It seems like she’s been nicer but idk. I don’t really trust her.

My dad and I are ok, though. I’m still upset about what he did, but he could still be a good dad and not a good husband? It’s kind of complicated. Like maybe his gf deserves to be with him. That’s mean.

Unfortunately stuff with my mom has been bad. We used to always go to the ballet at Christmas, it was our thing together. But a few years ago after the divorce she said she didn’t want to that year and just never asked me to go again. I asked a few times but she always said she couldn’t do it.

But last week she made a post with her, Penny and Emma (her stepdaughter that she wanted me to give the doll to). And obviously they were at the ballet. When I saw Penny the next day I feel like she wanted me to ask about it but I didn’t. She asked me if I wanted to go in on mom’s birthday present (it’s in a few weeks). I asked if I was going to be invited to her party/ dinner and she said that shouldn’t matter so I told her I’m not getting mom anything for stuff I’m not invited to. I got her a Christmas present and she didn’t invite me over and I had gotten her a wedding present and I wasn’t invited. Penny told me they didn’t want to invite me to the wedding because mom didn’t want me reporting anything back to my dad so she could enjoy the wedding (she eloped in the Caribbean).

That made me really upset so I called my mom later and asked if it was true. She was annoyed I could tell and told me she’d meet me to talk but I had to promise I’d listen. So I drove all the way out to talk to her and she was going on about boundaries and how if I wanted her in my life I had to respect them. And her boundaries are like I’d need to give her 3 days notice before seeing her and not asking the day of or before. And I’d have to invite Emma to anything we did and put effort into being a big sister to her and I was SO OVER it. I asked her again if the wedding this was true and she said that she just wanted to enjoy her wedding after everything.

I never have ever gossiped with my parents about the other. Even when I knew that the wanted to I never did. And even if i did, my own mom cared more about her ex finding out about her wedding than having me there.

I kind of lost it at that. I know it was wrong but I couldn’t help it. I’ve just been keeping things inside for so long and trying to get her to love me again and it’s pointless. She doesn’t want me around and I don’t want to be around anyone that doesn’t want me there. So I told her that, and I told her that I had no idea that dad had an affair until Penny told me but at this point I didn’t blame him, she could have fun with my replacement but it won’t ever be the same because she’s NOT her mom, she had a mom and it’s not her and she’ll always pick her mom over her. My friends moms \*\*go out of their way to see their daughters\*\* and I have to beg mine for scraps. I wish I had told her where to shove her \*boundaries\* but I didn’t have the juice to do that haha.

But I did tell her to forget that she ever had me and left. She called me a bunch but I googled it and since I’m 19 I’m allowed to block her number. So Penny and her husband have been calling and texting me so I told them she needs to respect MY boundaries.

I think I’ll be ok but it’s been hard. I have a therapist who helps me sometimes but I think cutting my mom out will be good long term. I don’t want to end up like her, and if Penny wants to cut me off for that that’s fine. My friends and I decided to get an apartment starting this summer. I think it’ll be good for everyone. My dad was sad when I told him but I need to start my life. Like I know it’s kinda bs because he’ll be paying my rent but we promised we’d get dinner at least twice a week. I know he did something bad but I kinda meant what I said about not blaming him. And at least he’s always been there for me unlike her.