Mom Secretly Photographed Girlfriend’s ID – Update Gets W…
The Original Post
Hey, I’m back. Things definitely took a turn for the worse… if that was even possible
Brief summary, my mom took pictures of my GF’s ID while we were away, I found out.
After discovering those first photos, I asked my girlfriend to meet me for dinner so I could explain the situation to her in person. She was understandably upset and scared, but she appreciated my honesty and the fact that I told her asap. However, she made it clear that she no longer feels comfortable or safe coming to my house, which I completely respect.
I finally had a serious confrontation with my mom, and she didn’t even try to deny it. In fact, she admitted with terrifying calmness that she has done this with every single one of my previous partners. Not only that, but she also has done it to my siblings’ partners as well. She insists she doesn’t do this to steal identities or commit fraud; in her mind, she is doing it strictly for security reasons to protect the family. However, seeing the folders/files she had on everyone was absolutely mortifying. My siblings have been married to their respective partners for over 10 years, and she still kept those files on them. I’m definitely telling them next.
She had photos of IDs belonging to my sister-in-law, brother-in-law, and many of my friends. But the thing that made my skin crawl was finding a picture she had taken of a thong I had recently bought as a gift for my girlfriend.
I forced her to delete every single photo and backup in front of me. I made sure to empty the “Recently Deleted” folder and the trash on her phone and cloud storage to ensure nothing was left.
Seeing that she has no remorse, I realized I couldn’t stay there for another minute. I’ve officially moved out and I’m currently crashing at my best friend’s apartment. My girlfriend doesn’t blame me, but we are maintaining a strict boundary with my mother. No contact. I’m still processing this total betrayal of trust.
Since I left, my mother has been sending me money, about 100,000 Argentine Pesos (roughly $100 USD give or take) every couple hours to try and bribe me to come back and I have ignored her completely.
I am honestly devastated. I feel like I’ve lived for 24 years with a person I didn’t even know. Seeing this side of her has completely shattered my perception of so many things. It’s a level of betrayal that I’m still struggling to process.
I also want to thank everyone who commented on my previous post; your support and perspective gave me the strength to confront her and take the necessary steps to protect my partner and my own sanity. I don’t know what the future holds for my relationship with her, but for now, I need to focus on healing and moving forward.
What Reddit Said
Redditors were horrified by the mother’s systematic invasion of privacy. Most commenters praised OP for handling the situation maturely by telling his girlfriend immediately and confronting his mother directly. However, many were deeply disturbed by the scope of the surveillance, especially the decade-long files on married family members.
The community was particularly concerned about the mother’s complete lack of remorse. Moreover, commenters found her “security reasons” excuse unconvincing and wanted to know what she actually planned to do with the information. In fact, many urged OP to warn his siblings immediately about their own partners’ compromised privacy.
The Verdict
Reddit unanimously supported OP’s decision to move out and go no contact. This mom photographed girlfriend ID documents situation represents a serious violation of trust that extended far beyond one incident. The consensus was clear: this behavior is unacceptable family drama that required immediate action. OP’s choice to prioritize his girlfriend’s safety and his own mental health over toxic family relationships earned widespread approval from the community.
Original post from r/relationship_advice (1,213 upvotes, 103 comments)