The Original Post
Not *totally* sure this fits here but I would like some advice about how to broach this subject with my neighbor.
I live in an apartment complex and we all have floor to ceiling windows. I have a neighbor who lives a few doors down, we have spoken maybe 5 words to each other.
The thing I dont know how to bring up is her window faces my windows at a pretty weird angle, so any time I look out my own window its like a perfect view of her apartment.
Recently, she’s been walking around a lot less clothed, going to the bathroom with the door open, things like that. So any time I look out my window its just right there.
I’m literally not trying to be a creep. I’ll be checking to see if a friend is pulling up, or watching the birds with my cats, whatever it is but its the first thing I end up seeing.
I’ve been mulling over how to bring this up in any of our elevator rides together but I have no idea if I should just let it be or tell her that her windows are just as visible as mine are. (You can see directly into my apartment if youre walking down the block, so I installed blackout curtains that I only open for light for my plants)
So, WIBTA if I just straight up told her I can see her bazoingas every night?
What Reddit Said
Most Redditors agreed the man should politely inform his neighbor about the visibility issue. However, they emphasized the importance of framing it carefully to avoid sounding creepy. The top comment suggested focusing on general privacy concerns rather than specific things he’d witnessed.
Meanwhile, some users argued from a different perspective entirely. One highly upvoted response came from a woman who said she wouldn’t care if neighbors could see her. In fact, she suggested the neighbor might already know about the visibility and simply doesn’t mind living her life openly.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: Not the Asshole (NTA) for wanting to address the neighbor visible through apartment windows situation. Reddit determined that a respectful heads-up about privacy would be neighborly rather than intrusive. This represents a classic case of neighbor etiquette where good intentions matter more than awkward circumstances. Therefore, most users supported the direct but tactful approach.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (1,630 upvotes, 344 comments)