Parents Demand Master Bedroom in Daughter’s Own House
The Original Post
Hi all, first time posting!
My parents and younger brother are about to move into my house (4 bedrooms 3 bathrooms)and I’m having a bit of a dilemma!
I offered for my family to move in with us whilst their house is getting built after the sale of their current home. We live in a rental crisis and when a rental is secured it can be really expensive. I’m super close with my parents and without thinking, of course I offered them to live with me for the 1.5 yrs it’ll take to build. Currently living in my home is myself, my husband and our newborn baby. My husband is only home one week of the month as he works away. It was loosely agreed that my parents and brother would take the back two rooms which have a bathroom (walk in shower and bath) and toilet beyween the rooms and set up their sofa and tv in the activity area next to the rooms so they would have one wing of the house and my husband, daughter and I the other side of the house. My daughter currently stays in our room but will eventually move to the back of the house near my parents next to the activity area. We have a one storey house.
My mother has been making comments to the effect of “I think your dad and I should be getting the master bed room” in a casual non-serious way which has bothered my husband who says they’re not getting our room. She’s also made comment that they’ll hear the baby crying during the night so she thinks I should be at the back room closer to her (to be honest there is not much distance between the master and my daughters future room and the back rooms). Also that the tv in the activity area will keep the baby awake when she moves into her own room so she should stay in the theatre room next to the master. Now I’ve found out that my mother has been making comments to my other brother that it’s disrespectful that I haven’t offered her and my dad the master bedroom that has an en-suite because she’s going to be paying half the mortgage. This had not been agreed – an amount they would pay us monthly was agreed but it’s no where near half the mortgage, it’s enough to cover bills.
So my question is… AITA for remaining in the master bedroom and not giving it to my parents?
What Reddit Said
Reddit immediately recognized this as a major red flag situation. The top comment, with over 17,000 upvotes, warned OP to rescind the invitation entirely. Moreover, commenters pointed out that 1.5 years is an extremely long time for this arrangement.
However, the most concerning theme throughout the responses was the potential damage to OP’s marriage. Multiple highly-upvoted comments specifically warned that this situation would “tank” her marriage. In fact, Redditors emphasized that the mother’s entitled behavior before even moving in was a clear preview of much worse to come.
The Verdict
The overwhelming consensus: OP is Not the Asshole (NTA). This case of parents demanding master bedroom house privileges shows classic entitled behavior from family members. Reddit strongly advised OP to reconsider the entire arrangement, as this type of family drama often escalates and damages marriages. The mother’s demands and lies about payment arrangements were seen as major boundary violations that would only worsen over time.
Original post from r/AmItheAsshole (7,062 upvotes, 1,621 comments)